(Closed) Is he mean and selfish or am I overreacting? Please help!

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

I couldn’t even read the whole thing, you both sound much younger than 30. He has anger issues and seems unwilling to compromise, I would let the relationship go, sorry.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

He’s not taking you or this relationship seriously, and everything will ALWAYS be on his terms. I’d ditch him and look for someone who respects me and makes me a priority!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

this relationship is over sorry bee…. you don’t accidentally take a job and move away from the person you are in love with and then while there slowly start making other plans and becoming less and less available

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

He is selfish and no, you are not overreacting. Run!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

 

buttercup222:  It doesn’t matter what he says. It matters what he does.  Talk is cheap. Your actions are what truly shows what you feel and believe. Stop listening to his words especially if they dont line up with what he does. Believe his actions first.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

This is the part where you leave. Please watch the similarly titled movie, this is the part where I leave you. You want someone who loves you, not barely tolerates you. I’m sorry, bee. Even without the punched walls (huge red flag) it appears you are in for being emotionally neglected until he meets someone new, or convinces you to end things so he does not have to be the bad guy.

I’ve dated an emotional manipulator. It does not end well.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

buttercup222:  Even if he’s not lying (to you or himself), why would you want to be with someone who treats someone he loves like this?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

He doesn’t respect you. He doesn’t support you. He doesn’t follow up on his word. He lies. He can’t have an adult conversation without snapping. You guys don’t even like the same things. You don’t want to live in the same area. You are really incompatible. Live where you want to live, focus on your career and your happiness and the guy who is right for you will fall into place.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

He doesn’t see you as his partner in life. Even if he says you are “the one” it does not mean much when he sure does not act like it.

Because of that, I am not sure why you see him as yours.

You can’t make him into something else than he is. He is showing you who he is, and what you can expect from him.

My advice is to end things, and go live your life for YOU. 

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Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

buttercup222:  When it gets to the point where someone would rather punch walls and destroy things than listen to what their partner is saying, it’s time to move on. At this point it doesn’t even matter if you’re being selfish. If you’re so selfish that he’s punching walls because you’re “ruining his life” then he should break up with you. And if he is so unwilling to communicate  and so inconsiderate that he’s punching walls, then you should break up with him. You’re not compatible. Cut bait and find someone more compatible. Relationships should be easy. There are hard times of course, but 90% of the time, it should be easy, and you should always feel loved. If it’s this hard less than 2 years in, move on because it’s only going to get worse.

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