Post # 31
runnerbeee : so I’ll start by saying that your Boyfriend is being very juvenile about this. How is your communication typically? Because the communication you’ve described sounds a bit childish.
As for the particular race – 4 hours away is FAR. you’re talking 8 hours of travel round-trip, plus race time etc. that’s giving up your entire day. In this PARTICULAR instance, i feel like you’re taking his “support” for granted, rather than recognizing that spending all day traveling to and from your race kinda sucks and is a pretty big ask. You seem to be acting quite entitled as far as your expectations go with this race…and youre kinda wrong about this one.
Post # 32
It doesn’t seem like this is the right guy for you bee. Not wanting to drive 4 hours for a race is understandable, but then to use it against you in every conversation, argument, etc., like he’s got leverage over all discussions because he spent a day doing what you wanted is BS, immature, and not conductive for a good partnership.
There’s lots of people out there who love dogs, spending time with family, will love you, and understand that supporting someone’s hobby doesn’t equal all power over decision making for the month after. Let this one go so you can find them.
Post # 33
Compatibility isn’t just about liking the same things, it’s about having similar values on how you want to spend your time and money, how you prioritize, what’s important to you, how you treat what’s important to your partner. You two don’t sound like a good fit.
Post # 34
You don’t sound compatible at all. Also, 23 is young but not a child. I got married at 23 and D.H was 29…he’s never once used my age against me even in our most heated arguments. It sounds like he thought you are young enough to defer to him as the more experienced partner, which is not a healthy dynamic.