- 3 years ago
Hi everyone! I’ve been lurking these boards for a while, and finally have my own dilemma to post about. Sorry if this ends up being super long.
So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years and have been doing distance for a while. He’s my best friend and I’ve never been happier with anyone. Recently, my situation changed and I made the decision to move to where he is. I’ve been a little crazy with stress lately just trying to get everything packed and ready to go and dealing with insecurities about moving across the country for someone with no real… outward sign of commitment. As far as he’s concerned, he knows everything is going to work out and isn’t worried about it at all, but I’ve just been overwhelmed and letting stress get the best of me.
Over the past 2 months, he’s brought up marriage a few times, but it was always in little ways. He’d bring up our last names or ask me how I felt about joint bank accounts, but that was the extent of it. And usually when we talked about it, it was a somewhat far off concept. However, more recently he’s brought it up a lot. When I brought up how I was feeling, he asked me if I wanted a proposal, but I never really answered and we started talking about other things. Lately though, he’s been uncharacteristically sweet. He doesn’t say he’s excited to see me or that he’s excited for my move, but that he’s excited to start his life with me. He’s asked me how I feel about weddings and engagement rings/wedding bands. Yesterday he kind of just threw it out there that we should just get married, but I couldn’t tell if he was joking or not. And in the same conversation about how we feel about eachother and how he knows I’m the one for him said that if someone asked him if he’d marry me today, he’d say yes. His best friend texted me saying that he cares about me more than I know, and when I brought it up with him, he avoided telling me what they talked about, just that it was about our future and where he wants us to end up as a couple. He’s been talking to his mom and dad a lot more lately and his mom texted me that she was trying not to get too excited but I would make the best daughter ever. When I brought up that everyone on FB was getting married, graduating, having babies, etc. he told me that he could help me with the marriage part.
I’m driving myself crazy here. I can’t read a mystery novel without flipping to the last page or watch a movie without reading the spoilers first. He’s coming in a month and we’re going to spend a week at a place significant to us, and his parents are coming for the last 2 days, before we drive down to where I’m moving. If this were happening, his dad would have the ring because it’s his grandmother’s.
I know it doesn’t matter, because regardless I want to spend the rest of my life with him. We’ve been through so much as a couple and have come out stronger than ever. I just can’t stand not knowing things! And to be honest, even though I think I might freak out a little if I knew his was proposing, I think I might be a little more disappointed if he isn’t. :/
So…advice, please? Am I just working myself up over nothing? How did you know…without actually knowing?