Post # 1
My Fiance is wonderfully hands-on. He put together a tremendous engagement party for us last weekend, 5 hours away in his hometown. Our parents met each other for the first time, he cooked a ton of food and set up everything. It was so generous, sweet, and loving.
That said, he is also fairly clueless about checklist-filled timelines, especially when they pertain to our wedding plans!
He wants us to go back to his hometown this Friday night, after both of us are working extra hours this week–day and night–for an all-day, all-night Saturday event, drive back on Sunday, ready for ME to go to work early on Monday morning–without having gotten any freakin’ thing done for the wedding over the weekend!
DOES HE EVEN KNOW HOW MUCH WE STILL HAVE TO DO BEFORE JULY 10??!!???
Wedding shower is the following weekend = no planning.
Bachelorette party the weekend after that = no planning.
Then we have 2 weeks. Panic.
The answer: Yes. That’s what kills me!
Ok. Breathe. Had to vent that.
Post # 3
Breathe. Yes, there are plenty of things to do in the last month. However, I assume you are not planning your own shower and bachelorette party, right? Those should be events you just show up to, no stress needed. Take a look at your checklist and see what needs to be done and make a list for both of you to go over and plan out the last month. Your Fiance sounds like a reponsible guy so I’ll bet if he sees what is left he can help to figure out how to “do it all”! Good luck!
Post # 4
I second suzieb1126 – also, assuming you aren’t working extra hours every week, try to make good use of your evenings. That’s when I get a lot done (my Fiance travels for work and is only home on weekends so I want to spend lots of quality time with him then, not wedding planning).
And you should still be able to do planning the weekend of your shower – the shower will only be a handful of hours of the entire weekend. I don’t know what kind of bachelorette party you’re doing, but you may be able to work on some things that weekend too.
It’s going to be a busy month – but you can do it!
Post # 5
Thanks, bees…I haven’t posted because both of us are working extra hours, and haven’t gotten home before 10 pm at all this week…
We’ll see how we feel tonight, which is when he wants to make the big drive (and when I’ll say either: “Go without me, honey, and have fun” or “OK, here we go.”) 🙂
Post # 6
Nature_girl: I know exactly how you feel. My fiance and are both from different towns. His parents and my parents live nearly 3 hours apart. Neither of us live in our hometowns. The wedding is at my parents’ church and all of the planning is happening there. Since we started dating we have been going to his hometown every other weekend. We are doing a lot of DIY (well I should I say, I’m doing a lot of DIY, because no one has really helped me). I made the invites, the rehearsal dinner invites, the program, the slideshow, the centerpieces, etc. My fiance does not understand that we get married in 43 days and there is still so much to do! I get so nervous and frustrated about it. Hang in there! If you want to talk about anything let me know!
Post # 7
Thanks, TennisChick! To his credit, he did go out and did a couple things today while I was at work–which I think is partly to encourage me to go tonight…but we’ll see. I have a stack of grading and report card entering to do in the next week in addition to all the wedding stuff……I need a break!
Post # 8
Just noticed your getting married this weekend!!!! CONGRATS and HAVE FUN!!!!