(Closed) Is he, the one?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… well, I don’t really believe in the idea of soul mates so… I guess the reason I “know he’s the one” is because I made that choice and I’ll continue making that choice every day for the rest of my life. It’s not cosmic, it’s not really even all that romantic, it just is the choice I make.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’m with KMSull on this. You know because you chose; and also because you have seen his good sides and bad sides; enjoy the first ones and can live with the bad ones!

An everyday choice.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

im going to go with the words of one of the greatest love stories sleepless in seattle:

“it was a million tiny little things that, when you added them all up, they meant we were suppose to be together”

 

thta being said i think its different for everyone, for me it was one of those i knew it after the first date that this was who i was supposed to be with, this is who i had been waiting for. but that sort of epiphany isnt the norm. i think its not about finding someone you can live with but finding someone you cant live without, if you are able to love the person your with completely and unconditional… ie not say ” oh i wish this part of him were different” then he is the one. For me i know I love every single part of my Boyfriend or Best Friend, every aspect of his personality, even the annoying ones i love because its him. I even love him when we are fighting. like i said, its a million little things that all add up and let you know.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

A still, small voice told me.  It was odd.  The first kiss sealed it.  Not in a romantic, infatuated sense… more like, “So this is it.”

Never had that happen before and I never told anyone, really.  Interestingly enough, he told me he felt that before I admitted to it myself, about a week after we first met.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I think the most important factors in a marriage are mutual respect and commitment to the relationship that you express in actions and choices every day.

 Love is important too, but there are different kinds. Romantic love seldom lasts forever, or else it comes and goes, which is natural. I think romantic love is overemphasized as being important for a happy long marriage. What is more important to me is companionate love, which lasts and lets you manage to live with someone for a lifetime without them driving you crazy.

That said, I also felt a little voice inside me tell me that I had found my husband when I started dating him. I knew almost right away. What came after that just confirmed it.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I do not believe that there is only one person for everyone so the term ‘the one’ doesn’t seem quite right for what I feel. The person that I am with complements me perfectly. I do believe that we can and will be together forever. However, I do know that if for some reason something happened with us, there is more than just one person in the world for me. To me, this is a less stressful, more comforting view of love.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

He was there when I was very very sick and it was me and him that got “us” through. Doctors had little influence on me. We fused together during that struggle and now we are the unapologetic co-dependent couple. We’re a little pair, a little team who look at life together from the same view point. Ug, I’m a writer but I can put this into words on the spot!

When you know it, you know it. I know it. He knows it. We know it.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Ok I used to be like KM.. I never believed in soulmates or one person meant for you or the one.. or whatever. But…. Mr. Tee and I have been friends for over 8 years. We have both been in long-term relationships which we both thought we would end up in. The reality was mine was 3.5 years of relationship hell and his was 2.75 years of close to the same.When we became friends online back in 2002 we would email, video chat, text, call.. and when we both had problems with our respective ex.. we would go to each other and it became the norm for us. I honestly never thought I would ever meet him in person and although that was very upsetting to me.. It was becoming a reality for me. One of my friends asked me one night.. if there was one person in my life I could never give up, who would it be and almost immediately Mr. Tee popped out of my mouth. Even though I had never met him in person.. I cherished his friendship soo much. April 2009 is when it all changed. It was the first time we were both single at the same time.. I was in and out of going on dates with men my family would set me up with (jewish tradition) and they so wanted me with a wealthy jewish man.. and to get married and start having babies fast. When Mr. Tee invited me up to Pittsburgh I as first declined.. but I knew we had something and I realized this was my one chance to figure out what it was. From the moment I met him.. I knew he was it for me.. It was just there. He was the exact same person that I had known and become to cherish the last 7+ years.. I wish I could describe it more than that. I know there is a reason he has remained in my life since 2001 and that there was a reason I couldnt let go of his friendship. I look forward to the day I can call myself Mrs. Tee and the day he becomes my husband.

Post # 12
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Worker bee

When we were together less than a month (we weren’t even technically boyfriend/girlfriend yet) I tried to leave for work, and my battery was dead. I called him (mind you we had only been on a few dates) because he was my only man-friend who had a car. He comes, picks me up, drives me to work and then comes and picks me up at the end of my shift. When we got back he jump started my car, then drove around with me to let the battery recharge.

 

So, I know this might seem silly, but that’s when I knew that he was my prince charming. But I agree with Gatormed, it is really just a ton of little things that made me know he was the one!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

TheRen! I nearly cried at your story!

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Yup. An unexpected, amazing feeling came over me when I first saw him, which was reaffirmed as I got to know him. He had a dream about me after we met, which inspired him to contact me and ask me on a date. So I felt he was “the one” immediately and went out of my comfort zone to pursue a relationship with him. In spite of our age difference and very different upbringings and experiences, we fit each other to a T.

Quite frankly my dear, I don’t give a darn if there are other people out there that are suited to me, that could be a good match. That’s a moot point in my book. I don’t know those other people. They’re not him!

Instinct, fate, choice, an act of God; whatever it is, he’s the one for me. 🙂

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

@ccran.. Its almost a fairytale to me because of how bad my past relationships had been.. I am so blessed to have had a friend like Mr. Tee in my life.. and it just puts the cherry ontop knowing hes the man I know im going to spend the rest of my life with.. he tells me everyday.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

theren- ok now im crying!! dawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

Mine wasnt love at first sight.. it was more I just appreciated his company.. it wasnt till about 3 months into the relationship that I actually realised that this is it…..Now I couldnt imagine my life without him. Cant wait for august!! *skips*

 

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