- 8 years ago
Hi everyone –
I’ve been a lurker for quite a while, but I finally registered so I can ask you all for some advice. I’ll keep it as short as I can.
My boyfriend and I are buying a house together, and we’re actually closing tomorrow afternoon (or 26 hours 23 minutes from now – gotta countdown, right?). We get along amazingly well and we’re both really excited to be doing this together.
Anyway, here’s my problem… Only my parents have seen the new place so far because they came to one of the showings and his parent’s couldn’t make it. I can’t wait to show his family (we’re pretty close) so I told him last week that we should have them come over the day we close and check it out while we clean up/start painting. He agreed. Then, I checked with him on Friday to see if he had let his parents know about coming over on Tuesday (closing day), and he kept pushing it off saying he would tell them this weekend when he saw his mom for mother’s day. That worked for me, so I dropped it, and went for the weekend to visit my sister who just moved out of state and desperately needed my help unpacking.
When I got back last night he told me that he took them over there while I was out of town. So rather than stick to the plan we made, he went out of his way to do this without me.. And on top of that he said that felt bad about not even letting me know he was doing it so he considered not even telling me. Not telling me?? wtf. Then I could just find out from his family when they come back again?? I hate lying by omission or otherwise.
I guess I’m just disappointed. Together we planned to have people come over on closing day to see it while we could both be there, but he decided to do it without me (it was his idea) and without even letting me know that he was going to do it. I’ve worked really hard to buy a house at my age – 24. I got divorced almost two years ago and I had nothing. It’s mostly my money paying for the downpayment and the moving related costs (furniture, paint, etc.). I just feel like he took something away from me. You only have 1 first house, and there’s only 1 first time for people to see it. I wanted to enjoy that moment or at the very least be present.
Would any of you feel the same way or is it just the stress talking?