(Closed) is hubby having a bachelor party?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Why would it be okay for you to get a party but not him?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@mrsedwardslpn:  Lay down some rules if it would make you more comfortable.  When Fiance and I were discussing bachlor/bachlorette parties I told him I did not care if he went to a strip club as long as there were no strippers in any private areas, such as private rooms or hotel rooms…  He said that was completely fine.  In the end he decided not to do the whole stripper thing anyway. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Not every bachelor party has strippers. And not every man is untrustworthy around strippers. in fact, I’d imagine the kind of man we would each want to marry is the kind who can manage to stay faithful even in a tempting situation. So I guess you and your Fi need to talk about what your own boundaries are, and he should be able to have a perfectly enjoyable event without crossing those boundaries. But you have to put in the effort. No one else can do it for you. You have to find what works for you as a couple. Your boundaries won’t be anything like any other couple’s.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

SO decided not to have a bachelor party because he isn’t the “drinking in a strip club” type.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m with the “strip clubs are fine but no private dances” rule!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My Fiance isn’t having one. I am 110% fine with him having one and encouraged him to, but he doesn’t want one.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I think if both want to have parties, they should.  It would be unfair for me to have a bachelorette party hosted by my Maid/Matron of Honor or friend and then tell my Fiance that he can’t have one.  Not all bachelor/bachelorette parties involve strippers.  I have no idea what mine will consist of (all I know right now is the day and what time to be ready for dinner).  I did tell my Maid/Matron of Honor what kind of night I was looking to have (easy, fun, nothing too crazy).  At this point, I don’t think Fiance will have one…his Bridesmaid or Best Man is super busy with school/work (he is even unsure if he will get out of work in time to attend the rehearsal & RD).  The rest of the GMs won’t be in town until the day before the wedding…Fiance says he’s fine with it but I feel bad because I think he should get to have some sort of celebration with his guys.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We are having a Jack & Jill party instead because neither one of us want strippers and this will give our friends a chance to get to know each other before the wedding. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’d rather have a co-ed Bach. The person that is most important to me and I like spending the most time with and have the most fun with is my SO, so why would I want to party without him. Besides, he’s not into the whole stripper/drinking thing. He’s idea of a bach is a concert.

I feel like the bach party is less for the bride and groom and more so for the friends. The friends excuse to let go. My SO is pretty much the last of his friends to get married. Most of them have been married for quite some time too, so it’s like the last hurrah for all his friends. Their last excuse to go out and go crazy.

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