(Closed) Is is better not to have a wedding party?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My bridesmaids aren’t helping me with anything as they’re all out of state (though they were involved in the invitations), but they will be there be there the day of to celebrate with me. I wouldn’t feel obligated to ask just anyone if you’re not close to many people. You don’t really need a bridal party.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Lots of things have changed since I first got engaged, mostly the fact that I only talk to one of the four girls I thought I wanted in my wedding party.

I’ve toyed with the idea and I’m not sure which way I will go. I can either have a Maid/Matron of Honor or not. I doubt that my friend will be able to do much of anything to help, so part of me is leaning towards no wedding party at all, but I may change my mind later. However, I’m also aware that I will be doing most everything myself anyway since my mother hasn’t exactly been supportive.

There’s nothing wrong with not having one, and like techie said, you shouldn’t feel obligated to have a wedding party if you don’t want to.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

My wedding party was amazing so I couldn’t imagine not having one but it all depends on what kind of friends you have. I’ve read some crazy bridal party stories on here, where if I had friends like that I wouldn’t want them to be involved either. I really lucked out with supportive, helpful, no drama kind of friends. Just from reading stories on here- people just need to pick wisely!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I’m not having a wedding party, and I’m pretty happy about it. I only have about 2 close friends, and they’re both married so I wouldn’t have them stand up in a wedding. Also, it was way less of a headache for me.. no worries about which dress to pick, etc. But mostly its great because on the day of I really want it to be about me and Fiance. We’ve rented a classic car just for the two of us to ride around in and take pictures. Its going to be really intimate and thats exactly what I want before we arrive at our reception of 550 people. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I didn’t have a wedding party; I couldn’t choose among the women I love the most, and there would have been way too many if I’d included all of them. I have to say, it saved everyone a ton of money. They didn’t have to buy dresses; I didn’t have to buy gifts for them, pay for their hair, etc.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@hopefloats:  I’ve never heard of not having women who are married stand up for you in a wedding!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are not having a wedding party either. I don’t have to bother anyone with helping out. Anyone I would have wanted to ask are all out of town so it would have just made things difficult anyways.  It is going to be a small wedding with only 40 guests and in our backyard.  We will just ask 2 people to sign the registry for us and call it good. My one splurge (if you can call it that) is to hire a student event planner to help out during the wedding.  It will cost me $80 to have her there helping out from the ceremony until the reception starts. Plus she will go and pick up the food we are ordering from a restaurant. I won’t have to bother any of our guests with that task, even though I’m sure they would have been more than happy to help out. I thought I was the only one having no wedding party at all.  Glad I’m not alone in this!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

You dont NEED a bridal party. I think this decision really depends on the wedding you want to have and the kind of couple you are. A few people brought up a lot of good points that were the reasoning behind me NEVER wanting a bridal party.

I have close friends that are married to FIs best friends (before we even met) that are now like our family…and because of we want the day to be a party and celebration from beginning to end, we opted for a bridal party of only our friends. We are getting a big limo and honestly, as long as you are patient and understanding, the bridal party is not annoying. Fiance and I are going to have a week to ourselves to unwind from the party and no matter what, no one and nothing can take away from the couple. 

I dont expect anything from anyone, but to know my girls are planning things and helping me and save files on their computer for my wedding just made me 100% sure about my decision. Bridal parties can be a headache when those involved expect a lot and the bride is stressed, but at the same time it is nice to be surrounded by a close group of people that will be with u all day!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It is MUCH better, but I’m biased because I’m not having one.  I jut didn’t see a point. I don’t really want/need/see the appeal of pictures with a bunch of women in the same dress.  Our families are helping so I don’t need BMs in that sense. I don’t have to worry about harassing people about getting their dress. My planning has been pretty stress free. I’m having lots of little kids and I’m paying for their attire because I don’t want to burden their parents.  Im asking parents their sizes, buying it and I’m done!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My sister did not have a bridal party and she doesn’t regret it.  I essentially was her Maid/Matron of Honor though without the title (helped her with bouquet, change dresses, her right hand man :). She’s a no fuss, low key gal. Even if you want to do everything yourself, you may need some help on the wedding day (everyone in my family pitched in for my sister).  It may actually be less stressful without bridesmaids ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I couldn’t imagine not having our best friends stand up with us on the day of our wedding. For me a wedding party is a must. Each to their own of course.

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