Post # 1
Bees is it just me or this a really inappropriate question to ask someone that isn’t a friend. Let’s take that one step further is this or isn’t this an inappropriate question to ask your employee?
I am extremely sensitive to bacteria etc that would often go without incident for most people and I also have a wide variety of food intolerances. Apparently the dinner I made last night didn’t suit me and I am extremely nauseated and sick today with stomach pains and vomiting. My manager thought it was appropriate to come up to my desk and ask me if I was pregnant. Seriously?
This is the second time he has directly asked this question and he has certainly alluded to this idea several times in the past. I find it beyond disrepectful and down right rude. He is a very large man with a beer belly…maybe he is pregnant?
Am I the only one that would be bothered by their employer or manager fishing for details on a possible pregnancy? It just irks me for some reason that they are trying to dig into my personal life.
And no, I’m not pregnant.
Post # 3
um yeah i’d say that’s a no. it’s never appropriate to ask.
Post # 4
Unless you’re watching a baby physically come out of someone….no, not ok.
Post # 5
I’m sure there are circumstances (not including when they’re a friend) that would make it appropriate, but that is definitely not one of them.
Post # 7
No, it’s never appropriate, IMO.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
Its VERY rude. The only time I would ask is if I was very close to someone, like my sister or a BFF, or if the woman was obvioulsy in her third trimester. When they’re that far along and their tummy is sticking straight out its kind of a dead give away. Im thinking of my sister who is in her ninth month and has had very little weight gain but has a huge tummy that is sticking out in front….
Post # 9
Never… unless you are BFF’s.
Post # 10
It’s not only inappropriate for an employer to ask, I’m pretty sure it’s illegal.
ETA – I’m sure your HR dept would want to know about this!!!
Post # 11
That’s really freaking annoying. He probably is expecting you to get preggers soon because you got married this year and worried you wouldn’t come back. You should have a chat with him, after you chat with HR about having this conversation, and tell him it’s not his business, it’s rude, and disrespectful. good luck he sounds like a charmer.
Post # 12
@Treejewel19: Very rude! If it’s a large company, complain to HR. If it’s not, then simply tell him tha tyou have health issues that create nausea from time to time and that you’re not comfortable discussing it. Hopefully he’ll get the hint that he’s being rude.
Post # 13
@Treejewel19: I drop my head in shame and say no. I saw a customer that had on a maternity dress and looked 7 months pregnant. I thought I was safe and being sweet. I hurt her feelings and make her cry. I will NEVER ask if someone is pregnant again. I don’t care if I see the baby’s head crowning. I can’t be 100% sure it’s a baby coming out, it could be a freak accident and an organ for all I know.
Post # 14
@HisIrishPrincess: Yeah that was my thought regarding today…newlywed=newly pregnant. However, the other times were before our wedding. I guess he just thinks I’m itching to get knocked up? 😛
@Cappugcino: It is a small company (six total). I kind of made a face when he asked but being that this isn’t the first time I’m not sure he can take a subtle hint. We are pretty low-key here and a lot of stuff that isn’t allowed within a normal work environment is overlooked but this is a bit too far in my opinion.
Post # 15
No, unless you are exposed to chemicals or other hazards at work that would be dangerous for a pregnant woman.
Post # 16
No, it’s never ok.
I’ve never had an employer ask me, but I have had strangers at work as me when I was due because of my weight. It’s inapproriate.
In my radiology program, even if your water breaks and you’re in labor on the classroom floor, unless you sign a form declaring pregnancy, you aren’t pregnant and no one is allowed to say anything to you about it.