(Closed) Is is ever appropriate to ask "Are you pregnant?"

posted 5 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

um yeah i’d say that’s a no. it’s never appropriate to ask.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Unless you’re watching a baby physically come out of someone….no, not ok.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

I’m sure there are circumstances (not including when they’re a friend) that would make it appropriate, but that is definitely not one of them.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

No, it’s never appropriate, IMO. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

Its VERY rude. The only time I would ask is if I was very close to someone, like my sister or a BFF, or if the woman was obvioulsy in her third trimester. When they’re that far along and their tummy is sticking straight out its kind of a dead give away. Im thinking of my sister who is in her ninth month and has had very little weight gain but has a huge tummy that is sticking out in front….

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Never… unless you are BFF’s.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s not only inappropriate for an employer to ask, I’m pretty sure it’s illegal.

ETA – I’m sure your HR dept would want to know about this!!!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

That’s really freaking annoying.  He probably is expecting you to get preggers soon because you got married this year and worried you wouldn’t come back.  You should have a chat with him, after you chat with HR about having this conversation, and tell him it’s not his business, it’s rude, and disrespectful.  good luck he sounds like a charmer.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Treejewel19:  Very rude!  If it’s a large company, complain to HR.  If it’s not, then simply tell him tha tyou have health issues that create nausea from time to time and that you’re not comfortable discussing it.  Hopefully he’ll get the hint that he’s being rude.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

@Treejewel19:  I drop my head in shame and say no. I saw a customer that had on a maternity dress and looked 7 months pregnant. I thought I was safe and being sweet. I hurt her feelings and make her cry. I will NEVER ask if someone is pregnant again. I don’t care if I see the baby’s head crowning. I can’t be 100% sure it’s a baby coming out, it could be a freak accident and an organ for all I know. Embarassed

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

No, unless you are exposed to chemicals or other hazards at work that would be dangerous for a pregnant woman.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

No, it’s never ok. 

I’ve never had an employer ask me, but I have had strangers at work as me when I was due because of my weight. It’s inapproriate. 

In my radiology program, even if your water breaks and you’re in labor on the classroom floor, unless you sign a form declaring pregnancy, you aren’t pregnant and no one is allowed to say anything to you about it. 

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