Post # 1
It seems ridiculous to me but my future mother in law insists that I should send out an inviation per adult even if they live in the same house. For example, there is a mother and her 40 something year old son who live together and she wants me to send out 2 invitations to the same address. It seems just a little redundant?! I certainly would not send 1 invitation per adult to a married couple!
Has anyone else run into this? Do you have any opinions as an invitee?
Post # 3
@ellyse: Its one per household or couple. Eek! Imagine the cost of having to send everyone an individual invite.
Post # 4
@ellyse: i would just make sure it is addressed to both adults in the household, or the inner envelope has both names
so they clearly know they are both invited
Post # 5
Adult children living at home should in fact have their own invitation.
I in fact had to send 4 invitations to 1 house.
Post # 6
It’s supposed to be 1 per household. 1 per adult? That’s absurd. That would literally be twice as many invites as you need. But if it’s an adult child, I could see why maybe you should send them their own invitation, but you certainly don’t need to send one for every adult in the house (example, a husband and wife don’t need their own invitation)
Post # 7
I sent one per household for families and/or couple… and for the odd cases like DH’s uncle and his gma that live together.. I sent separate invites.
Post # 9
I think the proper ettiquete is one per couple or one per adult if not a couple. But, we didn’t do that for most people, depending on the relationship. We definitely not do it for the cousins just because they were 18+, we just put the family down on one invitation.
Post # 10
One per household. My brother and cousin live together. They get one invitation. My granny and aunt live together, they get one invitation. No way I’m spending more money than I have to when its going to the same house.
Post # 11
Couples and children under 18 can be sent on 1 invite.
Adult sisters/brothers over 18, who live together, can be sent on 1 invite.
Couples with adult children (over 18) should both be sent separate invites.
Mr. and Mrs. X and Family is never appropriate.
For instance: We have an eldery great aunt and an aunt who live together (one widowed, one not married). They will be receiving separate invites.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
The etiquette is one per adult (couples get one). So, that meant I sent THREE to my brother’s house- one invite for brother/sis-in-law, one each per nephew (18 and 20 at the time.)
However, I followed etiquette because I’m close with my nephews and wanted to make them feel a little more special. If I had invited my cousin’s kids, I would have just sent one to their house.
Post # 13
One invitation per household.
Post # 14
I know appropriate etiquette is one per adult, including adult children, but eff that shit. One per household is all I’m doing. In some cases even though I ASKED for the addresses of adult children in college, I only received the parents’ address, thus forcing me to put the kids on the same invitation (or send multiples to the same address, which I think is kind of dumb).
Post # 15
@MrsWBS: You didn’t think sneding 4 invites to one household was a little silly?
OP – Do 1 per household. It’s ridiculous to send multiple invites to one house. It reminds me of Harry Potter and the thousands of Hogwarts letters coming into the house.
Post # 16
@ellyse: I didn’t think of the situation where there was adult kids living with parents etc who you may want to allow to bring their own partner so for that and similiar situations then maybe you would send more than 1 invite per household.