(Closed) Is it 1 invitation per household or 1 invitation per adult?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: One invitation per household or 1 per adult?
    One invitation per household : (94 votes)
    73 %
    1 per adult : (35 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
    233 posts
    Helper bee

    @ellyse:  Its one per household or couple. Eek! Imagine the cost of having to send everyone an individual invite.

    Post # 4
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @ellyse:  i would just make sure it is addressed to both adults in the household, or the inner envelope has both names 

    so they clearly know they are both invited

    Post # 5
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Adult children living at home should in fact have their own invitation.

    I in fact had to send 4 invitations to 1 house.

    Post # 6
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    It’s supposed to be 1 per household. 1 per adult? That’s absurd. That would literally be twice as many invites as you need. But if it’s an adult child, I could see why maybe you should send them their own invitation, but you certainly don’t need to send one for every adult in the house (example, a husband and wife don’t need their own invitation)

    Post # 7
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I sent one per household for families and/or couple… and for the odd cases like DH’s uncle and his gma that live together.. I sent separate invites.

    Post # 8
    8471 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @MrsWBS:  +1



    Post # 9
    5660 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think the proper ettiquete is one per couple or one per adult if not a couple. But, we didn’t do that for most people, depending on the relationship. We definitely not do it for the cousins just because they were 18+, we just put the family down on one invitation.

    Post # 10
    8483 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    One per household. My brother and cousin live together. They get one invitation. My granny and aunt live together, they get one invitation. No way I’m spending more money than I have to when its going to the same house.

    Post # 11
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013


    Couples and children under 18 can be sent on 1 invite.

    Adult sisters/brothers over 18, who live together, can be sent on 1 invite.

    Couples with adult children (over 18) should both be sent separate invites.

    Mr. and Mrs. X and Family is never appropriate.

    For instance: We have an eldery great aunt and an aunt who live together (one widowed, one not married). They will be receiving separate invites.

    Post # 12
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    The etiquette is one per adult (couples get one). So, that meant I sent THREE to my brother’s house- one invite for brother/sis-in-law, one each per nephew (18 and 20 at the time.)

    However, I followed etiquette because I’m close with my nephews and wanted to make them feel a little more special. If I had invited my cousin’s kids, I would have just sent one to their house.

    Post # 13
    8576 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    One invitation per household.

    Post # 14
    1880 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I know appropriate etiquette is one per adult, including adult children, but eff that shit. One per household is all I’m doing. In some cases even though I ASKED for the addresses of adult children in college, I only received the parents’ address, thus forcing me to put the kids on the same invitation (or send multiples to the same address, which I think is kind of dumb).

    Post # 15
    1876 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @MrsWBS:  You didn’t think sneding 4 invites to one household was a little silly?

    OP – Do 1 per household. It’s ridiculous to send multiple invites to one house. It reminds me of Harry Potter and the thousands of Hogwarts letters coming into the house.

    Post # 16
    233 posts
    Helper bee

    @ellyse:  I didn’t think of the situation where there was adult kids living with parents etc who you may want to allow to bring their own partner so for that and similiar situations then maybe you would send more than 1 invite per household.

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