Post # 1
I’m trying to get stuff organized ASAP as I just got engaged and my wedding is this June. I’ve found a restaurant I like and a photographer I like, but I haven’t done a lot of comparison shopping. Part of me just wants to get everything booked and done, but another part of me feels I should look around more before I commit. What do you think is the better strategy?
Post # 2
I just got engaged and my wedding is in August so I understand. If you like what you find and can picture your wedding there, get it done now. Almost everything is filled up already. The more you look, the more conflicted you will be anyway. I’m probably going to book mine soon. I just need to visit it. Im not doing too much other searching in the meantime. I understand your stress! People think I’m crazy for wanting to do it so soon.
Post # 3
Thank you!! I love weddings and if I wait a year+ all I will do is obsess and fantasize. By doing it this way, I can have a nice wedding without long-term anxiety haha
Post # 4
My wedding is September. And I’m definitely taking a pragmatic approach. Are they available? Will they supply what I want? I did check out another venue, but mainly just to confirm I’d made the right decision. There was no “this is the one” moment, but it ticked all the boxes. I don’t think I could cope with a longer engagement either.
Post # 5
Just depends on how happy you are with what you’ve found so far. If you feel like the restaurant & photographer are perfect, why not? As far as photography, I feel like its more of a “feeling” than price comparison, because all photographers are so different, it’s not always best to go with whoever is cheapest. If you truly like this photographer’s style, go ahead & book. Catering/venue I might would do a little more cost comparison but that’s me. Some people would rather have piece of mind that something is already booked and it might not be worth the cost savings to wait to book if you’re getting anxious about planning.
Post # 6
If they have solid and numerous reviews, I generally don’t see the issue with booking quickly.
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s necessarily bad. Some people are more decisive than others. Some people are more exacting than others. As long as you researched that they are reliable (no BBB complaints, no major red flags) and they meet your needs, then that’s great. I recently threw an event. I did some research into about 5 venues online (mostly because I couldn’t be flexible on the date and not everyone had costs on their website) and I booked the first one that checked all the boxes for me (date, budget, menu offerings) without even seeing the venue (I visited before the event and was delightfully surprised by it – it turned out wonderful). The other vendors I used, I knew what I wanted, found ones that looked promising and once I confirmed they could deliver, I booked them. I didn’t feel the need to comparison shop. Everything turned out great.
There’s no point in overwhelming yourself with options if you’re happy with what you selected.
Post # 8
God I’m jealous. I wish I could be like you. As you might have seen on a previous thread of mine…I’m torn between 3 venues.
I’m one of the least decisive people I know and it drives my family crackers 😂 I always worry there might be something else better.
Go for it…and in the mean time give me advice on how to be more like you 😂
Post # 9
That’s okay! My Fiance is very indecisive but his decision is always thought out and is the one he most wants, rather than a spur of the moment thing. If you’re like that too, I bet you wind up with something lovely. Enjoy your engagement!
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
When we got engaged we booked many of the first vendors we saw and everything went well for our weddding
Post # 11
FH and I set our date for June.. got engaged Dec 26 so I know your pain. We booked the first reception venue we got ahold of because
1. We have such a tiny, tiny time frame & they had all dates filled except one that was one week later than our expected wedding date. We were willing to sacrifice 7 days for a good venue instead of months somewhere else.
2. Three of FHs cousins got married there so we’re familiar with the layout and accommodations.
3. Since his family has been so loyal to them, we got it for $150 including retainer! We honestly couldn’t pass up that opportunity. It’s historic, from 1906, with gorgeous original wood floors and accents, DJ stand included, and we have it from Friday at noon to Sunday at 4 for set up and clean up. It accommodates 200 people.
We did get super lucky. We also aren’t real picky and we’re throwing a decent sized wedding on an almost impossible budget so when we heard the deal they would give us we didn’t hesitate.
Post # 12
We looked at a few venues, but once we found one that had the atmosphere we wanted, we booked it and didn’t bother looking at others.
We only met with one photographer, but both really liked him. We booked him right away.
Only tried one cake vendor. DH is very picky with cake, so when he liked their cakes, we booked them. No use wasting time trying to find anyone else.
Overall, I don’t think we comparison shopped too much. We know what we like and trusted our judgement. Made everything much less stressful.
We also planned the wedding in 5 months, so I get the shorter timeline.
Post # 13
With the time frame you have, I don’t think there is anythign wrong with going with vendors you like right away. I was thinking of doing something similar but we have a bit more time so i see the benefit in shopping around for a better price/quality. We went with the first and only photographer we talked to! However the venue is a bigger cost and so I’m doing a bit more research on that (wedding shows help!)
Post # 14
This is how I thought of it, except I have a really long timeframe. We are 1 year 3 months out and once I booked my venue, I figured “hey, I have an opportunity to have a wide selection of vendors, so let’s get things that matter to us most”. We’ve decided on the 3-rule. We’d pick 3 venues that were in our basic price range and had our requirements, 3 bands, 3 photogs, etc. Honestly, with every choice we’ve made my first instinct was the one we went with everytime. So, as we get further along though, we’re getting better at trusting our judgment. One thing I’ve decided is that I don’t want to engage further with vendors who are not upfront about pricing – just too many annoying phone calls and sketchiness. If you’re not upfront, I probably don’t want to work with you.
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2019 - New York City
I’m glad I’m not the only one who wants to book the first I see! 🙂 I like what I like but I don’t want to miss out on a bargin! 🙂 🙂 Especially in New York City.