(Closed) Is it a complete surprise?

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I basically did not know anything! We had talked about marriage, but I did not think he was planning behind my back because we had only been together for 18 months. I did get a feeling that he was ring shopping in the weeks before he proposed, but didn’t think he would propose soon because his job was laying people off at that time.

Anyways, he completely surprised me while we were on vacation in Las Vegas in March 2009. I am glad that I was oblivious and that he picked out my ring on his own. I know others want to be more involved, but the way things happened was great for us!

Post # 5
2200 posts
Buzzing bee

Complete surprises are great if they pan out that way. Mine would have been a complete surprise if he did it 15 months ago.

Post # 6
3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had absoluetly NO CLUE. I didn’t even know a time frame. I thought it was years off as school was just starting up for me. Lo and behold he’d done online investigation, figured out how a ring was conflict free, figured out where to shop and how to ask my father all in the months precedding his proposal… and I hadn’t a clue. I actaully really liked the surprise factor.


ETA: I didn’t like the ring, BUT I grew to love it, I wouldn’t have traded it even if he offered. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
2223 posts
Buzzing bee

I instructed him to lie to me. Because I’m pretty good at reading his body language. I guessed what my Xmas gift was weeks before I got it after minimal questioning. I sent him a couple style ideas and he’s never given me a hard timeline. Just that it will happen. But I told him that if I ever press for a specific timeline to just lie. Example: if it’s 8 months away tell me within a year, etc. I will obsess, and i will get my answer. ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s for my own good because I want it to be a surprise. We live in Maryland and my parents are in Wyoming and his are in Arizona, so we’ve never officially met each other’s families. So, I’m not sure if he will really be able to ask my dad for permission. But I am excited about how he will decide to pull it off.

Post # 11
575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I won’t (don’t) know anything. He doesn’t want help ring shopping, I’m not even sure he’s going to ask my parents (it’s not important to any of us), and I have no real timeline aside from the fact that he said I wouldn’t have to wait until our anniversary this June.

So. Here I wait. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012


I haven’t got a clue what is going on. We talk about marriage, kids, buying a house, etc. And about 1.5 years ago I showed him a picture of the ring that I wanted (and he knows where to find it on my laptop if need be). Other than that… He has never talked about buying a ring, a proposal, nothing. It is going to be a complete surprise. Which I’m fine with, but at the same time I HATE being left in the dark because it makes me feel likethink he’s not doing anything to move our relationship to the next level.


Post # 13
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

The timing of my proposal was a complete surprise.  A few months prior, he’d ask for general guidelines about what ring style I would like, and then it never really came up again.  I was hopeful that it would be coming soon, but we never went shopping together, I didn’t know when he sat down with my parents, etc.  We went to separate colleges and he surprised me by driving 5.5 hours and planning it out with my friends, so it was a HUGE surprise when I walked outside of my dorm and he was there!  I absolutely loved it that way ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
3674 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Mine was a complete surprise. Our year anniversary was coming up a month later, so I thought it might come around or after that, but he surprised me by picking the anniversary of the day we met instead of when we started dating.

He completely surprised me with the ring. It’s a family diamond, and I happened to talk to his mom about all of the rings that they have so I knew they were all taken, and kind of disappointed b/c I always wanted a family ring. What I didn’t know was that she was going to pass down her ring (my husband’s great grandma’s originally) to me. It was easy for him to get it b/c he just had to pick it up from his mom’s house.

He didn’t ask my dad’s permission, which he later explained was b/c he didn’t want to ruin the surprise. My parents have big mouths, so I don’t blame him for that.

Post # 16
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

i had no idea it was coming. i mean we had looked at rings in passing but never went ring shopping and he always said in a few more years. he asked my parenst and they didnt say anything to anyone. he didnt even tell my best friend so i was in shock. He had thos whole event planned. i was so off guard that when i found the message in the bottle on the beach i thought i had found someone elses proposal. it wasnt until i turned around and he was on his knee that i knew it wsa for me. i love the fact that i had no idea. i think it kept me from thinking it was coming and being let down after we did something and the proposal didnt happen.

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