(Closed) Is it a complete surprise?

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have an idea of the ring, since we went ring shopping together. But a couple weeks ago when I showed him a ring similar to what we looked at – he said he thinks I’m going to be surprised at what he gets…I was like wtf?! Did you already get the ring…what’s going on??!!! He just smiled and shrugged. 😐

I know he’s not going to ask my dad and we don’t really have a timeline – but I’m thinking it will be on our anniversary at the end of this month. I’ve been waiting for over a year and I think about it all the time – so I’m not sure if it will be a complete surprise! I guess the way he does it will be a surprise though.

Post # 19
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411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I’m sure it will be a complete surprise for me.  We have a timeline and he asked once on his own what I want for a ring in September ’10 (more like checking to make sure he remembered correctly) & then a couple weeks ago I got more specific because I once changed my mind but then changed it back and wanted him to know I changed it back to the super cheaper-but-more-romantic option.  Other than that, I’m pretty sure he’s going to do it all sneaky on his own.  He waits until the last minute for b-day & Christmas gifts and they’re always spectacular.  He’s also already surprised me with jewelry that he had cut from my stash of uncut gems from a gem-mining place we go to so he’s already had experience with sneaking gemstones right from under my nose.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Anxiouspeanut: He told me after the fact. Him and my Dad are both really into Porches, and they went down to the states together and he said he asked permission then. Awww. But if that didn’t happen then I presume he would have just called him up on his own and took him out for dinner, privately. Hope that answers your question 🙂

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The more you think about the more you potentially set yourself up for failure. So just make it clear it is important that he does ask, after that leave it to him. It really is for him to figure out though right? I know it’s hard but you’re going to have to figure something out to keep you occupied, this isn’t really your concern I guess I’m trying to say.

But it IS okay to tell him that your fathers permission is something you’d like him to get. If he’s not a stupid idiot (LOL joke) he’ll find a way 🙂

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I didn’t know anything about it.  We had been together for almost 4 years and were shopping for our first home to buy, and around Christmas time when we went to the mall together he was kinda asking me which rings I liked, but putting it in the context of what his good friend (who proposed a month before he did) bought for his Fiance.  We always talked about our future and had been living together for a long time, but the proposal was a total surprise–he whisked me off to Atlantic City for a date at a fancy restaurant and the rest is history!

Post # 25
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i knew nothing about it. whenever i would bring up marriage or a ‘timeline’ he was give me a very vague answer like ‘within the next 2 years you’ll be married’ or ‘sooner than later’ it was so frustrating! he ordered the ring, picked it up and then went and told his parents and my mom, and then asked my dad for premission, later that night he asked! i was completely shocked, had no idea it had been coming. we were together just over a year and a half when he proposed, so even though i woudl ask him about marriage, i thought he would think it was too soon.

Post # 26
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301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had absolutely no idea that my proposal was coming.  It happened on christmas morning.  He went out christmas shopping with my mom, asked her while they were out, bought the ring, and then came home and talked to my dad about it.  Two days later, we are opening presents christmas morning and he proposes!! I was completely suprised,and it was absolutely perfect. The only people that knew he was doing it was my parents, my sister, and his parents.  He had told them on xmas eve while we were at his house.  We went out to the car and he went back inside saying he “had to go the bathroom.” Really he was letting his parents know what his plans were for the next morning.

@Anxiouspeanut:My ring looks just like that! I absolutely looooove it

 

Post # 29
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I did not know that he was planning to propose. However, he did not propose with a ring and we picked it out together after the proposal. So yes, it was a complete surprise.

Post # 30
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1497 posts
Bumble bee

i have no clue though i did just ask how far along he was with his saving for the ring [he keeps mentioning how i liked the most expensive ring ever. bah, i did not expect to fall in love with the halo settings! lol] but other than that, all i know is that it’ll happen sometime soon after he moves out here. whenever that will be.

Post # 31
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@JillBill:

We haven’t (and probably won’t) gone shopping together either. A couple of years ago he mentioned that he wanted to ‘talk’ to my dad, but that was 2 years ago. If he was gonna do it NOW, he probably wouldn’t tell me. And my dad wouldn’t tell anyone but my mom… I can read my mom like a book though, hehehe.

GVD

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