Is it a dating scam or could this be real?

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Busy bee

Ok. This is way too complicated and not even worth continuing the “relationship”. Next!

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

Definitely sketchy, but possibly too early to say. I’d tell her to cancel her flight and book it when he’s THERE (in the US), or tell him to come to her. Stop with the re-booking and constantly changing plans. “Ok well you have a lot on your plate right now! Send me a note when you’re back in X state and we can pick up then.” see what happens. He might ask for the money then, he might say ok cool, maybe something else. But she shouldnt keep her life on hold for a maybe.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Yeah, sounds sketchy to me.  

Post # 7
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Honey bee

 Your friend is being scammed – definitely.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

scam. too much work. too many red flags. they do wear hospital gowns in Asian hospitals. Even if it isn’t a scam, he wants to stay with a woman he’s met once so she can take care of him??

Post # 11
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Honey bee

He’ll keep it goin as long as he possibly can until she gets a freakin clue. She sounds my age. Did she just fall off a turnip truck yesterday? 

I’m terribly skeptical/cynical but really anyone should know that asking for money is a sure sign you’re being played. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Whether or not this guy is for real, there is just way too much drama with him for my comfort.  Assuming your friend is interested in pursuing a LTR with a man, id advise her to walk away from this one and see if she can find a man who is actually available and doesn’t come with so much….just so much

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

SCAM!!!!!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Sounds sketchy AF on soooo many levels… 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper

I don’t believe for one moment any of this is real. Remind your friend that this person is, in reality, a perfect stranger. I don’t care how many times they’ve Facetimed since their one brief encounter, she does not know how he functions in his own environment or in any way other than exactly what he wants her to see. Maybe he has a friend who is in on the scam who works in a hospital. Maybe his work takes him to nice apartments. The hostel address should have clinched it for her. Really, all of it should. I’d cut him loose.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Doesn’t seem real… unsure if he’s after citizenship, money, attention, whatever.. but too unbelievable. Is it possible they actually met online and she’s just saying they met in person as a cover? I know when I was online dating, I didn’t like admitting it, even to my closest friends. 

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