(Closed) Is it a good idea to have your family cater your wedding? Should a pro be hired?

posted 6 years ago in Food
Post # 3
511 posts
Busy bee

Having his family cater the wedding, for me, would be a recipe for disaster.  They’ll be too busy to enjoy the event, and how are they going to handle any criticism if that should happen?

Post # 4
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Legendre2014:  I don’t think family members should have work at your wedding, it’s not cool. I agree with you, hire a caterer or arrange for a deli or restaurant to put the food together.

And definitely get an outsider to set up and serve, clean up, etc.

Post # 5
4361 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Go professional.  Your family, or his, will not want to be catering your wedding when they are supposed to be guests.  Added to which, no matter how good a cook his mum/grandma/aunt is there is no fall back if something goes wrong, like the oven stops working or something.

Post # 6
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would go pro, it is just setting the whole situation up for failure.  I looked at doing it all with my family too, in the end, there wasnt hardly any cost savings and it wasn’t worth the trouble it could cause for such a small savings.  We did have to do some digging to get one in our price range and we were MORE than thrilled with the food and the service.  Plus, like a pp said, our families got to enjoy the day and didnt have to work through it all.


Post # 7
421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d say it depends on how large your wedding will be. My in-laws catered our wedding for at least 100 guests. They cooked the food two days prior to the wedding and my father in law was amazing at making sure the food was always being replenished at the tables. He also did offer so it’s not like we made him do it. Everything went pretty smoothly except at the end we all had to clean up but it’s no biggie. It saved us alot of money but if you can afford a caterer why not go with one. 

Post # 8
1310 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It depends. For most folks outside catering works best. But I do know there are lots of cultures around the world where weddings are ALWAYS “catered” by the bride’s family, the groom’s family, both, or the entire community. And by catered I mean they provide the food.

Post # 9
1916 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My parents own a restaurant, so they hosted the rehearsal dinner there, but opted to have the wedding reception catered so they could enjoy the event.  It worked out for the best.

Post # 10
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My Mom catered my first wedding and it actually went perfectly. There were a ton of friends that helped her. We prepared everything the day before the wedding in a commercial kitchen at the hall we rented for the event. A lot of my wedding was DIY so I suppose that is why it just worked out great. We had a lot of food. Served it buffet style. We chose to spend money on other things like decorations instead of thousands on food and in the end it worked out perfectly. On the menu was mine and my ex husbands favorite foods with our names beside who’s favorite it was.


I would like to add though that my Mother is not a professional but she did organize large meals for large crowds in the past for non profit organizations so she did have some experience. 


*Edited to add that there were 145 people at my wedding.

Post # 11
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Perhaps his family could sponsor a dessert table, with lots of family recipes. That way they only have to set up their items, and can enjoy the event as guests instead of having to “work” at the wedding.

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