Post # 1
I’ve read and heard this, but I always like the thinking of people as individuals, not stereotypes. As things progress I’m wondering if there is some truth to this though. My aunt told me many months ago to be aware that mexican mothers are like italian mothers (we’re italian) especially when it comes to their sons, so tread carefully.
It’s the little things. Like when I make mexican rice, offer for her to try an see what she thinks, she say “really good” then its sitting next to my sink to be discarded with only that bite taken. Or when she has come to my house that we just bought, and offers to clean but I tell her no I don’t want her to be working it’s okay, I’m just tired from all the work and she gets up to clean anyway untill I take over. It’s a lot of questionable comments as well. I know I’m over analyzing it, but what better place to do it then here? lol
Post # 3
Add French Mother-In-Law to this list!
Post # 4
It has nothing to do with your Mother-In-Law being Mexican. It has to do with her being a Mother-In-Law.
Post # 5
I’ve dealt with a variety of moms (BF’s moms and FMIL) and heard stories, and I assure you that I’ve had my cooking criticized and my house re-cleaned. Even with my own mom, she insisted on re-cleaning my house when she came to visit and I’m not Mexican.
Post # 6
Sorry If i missed this part but do you have any background to offer?
You are not “Mexican” and you husband and his mother are?
You are all Mexican?
Post # 7
Is so true , I am not Mexican but I am marry to a Mexican and my mother in law is just like u said !! But hey I would be the same for my future son !!
Post # 8
Yes. People who were raised in a certain location are all the same.
Post # 9
@zomgwut: Did you read my post? I dont like to stereotype, that was the reason for my question? seriously.
Post # 10
I think that is the general stereotype of MILs regardless of where they are from
Post # 11
@bearlove: I agree with this. I am AA and so is FI’s mom (I never call her FMIL) and she is just like that. And then complains to Fiance that I cant keep a house clean. B**** really? Try keeping a house clean when you just had a baby and you got 2 other kids thats 5 and 3. I cant stand her.
Post # 12
my mom is italian and she wont lift a finger to clean or cook – she sucks, i want a mexican mom!
Post # 13
Ask yourFMIL to show you how to make Mexican rice instead of making it yourself. It makes a difference.
Also, around mine I usually offer to help clean the dishes (I do that when she isn’t around anyway), or just with anything I can help with as far as cooking and cleaning. My Mother-In-Law is old-fashioned and appreciates old fashioned values. I also always call her Mrs. Lastname. Never by her first name. She really appreciates that, although she would never tell me to my face. Darling Husband has told me that she has mentioned that a few times. It shows respect.
Post # 14
I’m going to agree with PP and say it has nothing to do with being Mexican. Some mother in laws are like that. My Future Mother-In-Law refuses to acknowledge my presence on this earth and we’ve only met twice very briefly. And we are both black. Some Mother-In-Law embrace their kid’s spouses and others don’t.
And a word of honest advice. You say you don’t stereotype but it seems like your question is a stereotype. Sounds like you didn’t mean it but folks get touchy around race/ethnicity
Post # 15
@zomgwut: Agree with you! Seriously?
@punkin83: Prefacing something with I don’t like to stereotype/be racist/be sexist etc and then doing it doesn’t make it any better!
Why not try making an effort and asking your Future Mother-In-Law to do things/teach you things such as how she cooks the rice etc?
Post # 16
I think Mother-In-Law in any race, shape, color or form are just complicated. My future mil has said a lot of crap to me that has offended me and believe me is not because she is Mexican… She is just complicated. Plus I’m not there for her I’m there for him and I sleep with him so I could care less what she has to say about me.