(Closed) Is it a major problem if your SO/FI/DH doesnt get along with your siblings?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How much does it affect you or your your relationship?
    Total dealbreaker, nothing comes between me and my sibs! : (17 votes)
    17 %
    Meh, act cordial and all is dandy... : (72 votes)
    73 %
    Stand up for how you feel, regardless of the relationship! : (10 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 32
    Member
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

    Before Darling Husband, I couldn’t imagine anyone getting along with my oldest brother; he’s extremely overprotective and has always behaved like a dad with me. For whatever reason, as soon as Darling Husband met my family, they all clicked and are super close so now I can’t picture anything else. It is important for me that they get along really well because I’ve seen how close they can be. As for DH’s sister; we used to be close until we had some issues and stopped talking to her for about 6 months. We are now back on speaking terms but things are not the same as they were 

    Post # 33
    Member
    249 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016 - Santa Barbara Courthouse

    When I read the title of this thread, I actually laughed out loud a little… both my Fiance and I have miserable sibling relationships. 

    First, my Fiance really dislikes my sister. But so do I. She’s awful– literally one of the most miserable people i’ve ever met. So I don’t blame my Fiance for not liking her.

    Second, I really dislike my FI’s sister. But she’s crazy and has attacked me (physically and emotionally) with no provacation numerous times. So my Fiance doesn’t blame me for not liking her. 

    In my relationship, we don’t like our siblings and our siblings don’t like us. We don’t really interact with our siblings much and when we do we are polite and cordial, but that’s it. It has never affected our relationship much, in one way or the other. 

    Post # 34
    Member
    3052 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I don’t even get along with my own siblings fantastically….so basically I couldn’t care less.

    Post # 35
    Member
    629 posts
    Busy bee

    I didn’t vote, since it’s just vice versa for us, as I’m an only child. I know he would like me to like his siblings, and I do act friendly with all of them. However, he also knows I don’t really trust his older brother (his best man, in fact) since I’ve only witnessed him act as a flying monkey for their parents, specifically their mom. Fiance claims that his OB always has his back, but it doesn’t look that way in the last 3 and a half years.

    However, he loves that I love his sister! I asked her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, even though she lives across the ocean. His younger brother and step brother, I like as well, and have no issue with.

    Post # 36
    Member
    294 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    My younger sister used to be close to my SO.   Until my SO went into psychosis which resulted in him going on FB writing very vile things about her and I on my page.   I didn’t get a chance to erase it before she saw it and ever since she rants and raves about him.

    When he comes over she will lock the doors,  so I have to go outside to meet him.   I have forgiven him for his deeds during his psychosis,  however she hasn’t.  It is causing  strain within the family that I forgave and took him back. 

    I forgave and took him back once he sought treatment and is now stable. 

     

    Post # 37
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    572 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    My brother is an idiot. I love him, but he is selfish and lies all the time, so we have all had issues with him but we get along okay.

    My sister loves my husband and we love her and my neice, even though we have disagreements at times she is a hard working single parent who I admire and wish I could help to make her feel better about herself.

    Post # 38
    Member
    9681 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    For me, yes. We are all very close. 

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