(Closed) Is It Acceptable For MIL to Correct DH's Language In Our Own Home?

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Post # 62
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Honey2Bee:  I agree.

It doesn’t matter if he is 53.

I like his mom. Haha.

 

🙂 

Post # 63
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I just read first part of your update. (My phone battery is low)

 

Anyway, yeah she is being unfair regarding the first two paragraph.

 

You are married to her son now. She should not be treating you that way.

 

 

But for the initial post, my thought remains same.

 

Anyway, tall to your husband about it.

My mom went through worst things than this and made the mistake of not telling my dad.

Post # 64
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

kittychik:   So glad you recorded the conversation.  Good for you.  I’d change the locks and keep her out of the house – permanently.  She isn’t going to change.  Hang in there.  

Post # 65
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow that’s an insane update!! I want to know your DH’s reaction!!!

Post # 66
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Busy bee

kittychik:  This deserves a whole new post. Holy crap, that woman is INSANE! 

 

ETA: It’s one thing for a mother to tell her child to control his language because when he swears, maybe she feels like she didn’t do a better job raising him. THAT I can understand. But assuming that she is the “head of the family” (WTF?!) and that she has the RIGHT to enter whomever’s home at whim AND that she is the only woman in your husband’s life…that’s batshit crazy. 

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Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

OMG! What a crazy b****! I’m so sorry you have to deal with this! Thank God you recorded the conversation! I would seriously distance yourself from your Mother-In-Law and tell her she is no longer welcome in your home until she can respect your privacy. 

Your husband should probably also have a talk with her clearly stating that you are the number one woman in his life and that he will not maintain a relationship with someone who disrespects you–even if that is his own mother. He should give her a clear explanation of the boundaries you and he have established and tell her she needs to be respectful or she won’t be welcome in your lives. 

It’s best that this comes from your husband so that she knows he’s serious about this and that you guys are a team. 

Ugh, what a vile woman. So sorry you ended up having to deal with her. Good luck and keep us posted! 

Post # 68
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588 posts
Busy bee

Damn, I’d start looking for ways to flush her influence from your life. It’s going to be a power struggle. If financially feasible I’d be redesigning my ring (keeping the stone but switching the setting to something YOU like that doesn’t remind you of her, which i’m sure will not settle nicely) and looking to sell his bachelor pad and putting a new house in both of your names. Lots and lots of locks installed and keys to only a close friend/neighbor for emergencies. If any family is invited for any period of time, all bedrooms/personal spaces closed and locked or meet her at a restaurant to see her on neutral territory.

Mama Bear is used to being the one with the power and influence over her son. You’ve got a fight ahead of you. Very much a Bunny/Charlotte dynamic

Post # 69
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Sugar Beekeeper

kittychik:  Wow! I’m so sorry it’s come to this. The woman is insane. 

Post # 70
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

OMG I READ THE FIRST THING AND I FELT ANNOYED WITH YOU, then I read the second and I was feeling your anger a bit… THEN I READ YOUR LAST UPDATE AND I AM JUST AS INFURIATED AS YOU ARE, she sounds sick in the head…

i can tell u from experience that my parents gave my grandma (dads mom) a key to their house and she ALWAYS Would come in the house with her key unannounced, whether we were home or not and would def snoop around the house.. Things would be moved and shit would be in a different spot.. Only problem was she would never admit that she snooped. is it better that your crazy ass Mother-In-Law admitted that she snooped? Ugh… I would be so disgusted by her. I’m glad u took the high road and didn’t respond with anger… It was GENIUS to record u convo and I’m sure that helped keep u in check bc I bet u had some choice words for her that didn’t include just the word “shit” 😄

stay away from this woman as much as u possibly can, she sounds horrific. And I’m sorry ur going through this mess! 

Post # 71
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Anddddd I’d like to add…since when does his entire family think its okay to barge into someone’s house (regardless of whether they have a key or not) unannounced, uninvited and think that this behavior should be tolerated? I think it’s an extreme invasion of PRIVACY which clearly no one in that family understand besides ur Darling Husband of course! I think they need to learn some manners!

Post # 72
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Wow. Wow. Wow. Im so angry For you. 

Those locks are already changed right? Its not just a plan? 

Wow. She is completely insane. 

Post # 73
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Busy Beekeeper

Original post, still agree w Mom. Updated post…WTF.

Post # 74
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594 posts
Busy bee

Ever seen “Mommie Dearest”? Your mother-in-law and Joan Crawford are two peas in a pod…

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

I don’t think it matters what house you’re in you have to be mindful of your audience.  For example, Fiance and I do say badwords at times and with my parents around it’s okay, because my parents are pretty laid back.  But around FI’s parents we don’t say bad words because they are not that laid back and they themselves don’t say bad words so we are respectful of that and wouldn’t want them to feel uncomfortable.

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