- 5 years ago
*NEW INFURIATING UPDATE* (LONG)
weddingmaven: This woman is as strong and healthy as a horse both physically and mentally; other than being diabetic; and this is from her most recent complete medical exam which took place right after our wedding two months ago. My SIL and I both were there with her at the doctor’s office when she went back for all her test results as we planned to have lunch and shop for our church pantry afterward, so I know she isn’t suffering from any form of dementia…she’s just a manipulative control freak who has decided to unmask and unleash her hell on me now that I have “interrupted the family lifestyle” (a few of her many words toward me today). Let me tell the Hive about my lunch…
First of all, I did realize that with Darling Husband not being present for this conversation and allowing me to handle it however I saw fit that I might need proof of whatever transpired between Mother-In-Law and myself depending on how things went, so as soon as I walked into the restaurant I hit the voice record funtion on my phone and laid it facedown on the table so every single word we both said would be recorded for Darling Husband to hear if need be…and boy am I glad I did this!!! The woman has done a complete 180 turn on me and has now decided the two of us are at war over Darling Husband and his home!
When she got there right after I did and sat down, the first thing she said to me was “I guess you’re angry that I went through your things, but let me tell you right now little missy, I have EVERY RIGHT to go anywhere and look through anything I please in my own son’s home; that is my right as the head of this family and you will not take that right away from me like you have slowly been trying to do ever since you moved in there four years ago!” I just sat there for a minute with my mouth hanging open and what I’m sure looked like cartoon bug-eyes, shocked by her immediate and vehement attack on me, and then told her “No, it is NOT your right in any way to violate the privacy of an adult couple in their own home, no matter who you are in relation to them; PERIOD!”
She then proceeded to spew off several insults to me; refering to me as “low-rent Irish trash”, “little gold digger”, and a “weird secrecy nut who obviously has something to hide from everyone because of the obsession with privacy”, and that she plans on finding out exactly what it is before it “destroys (her) son’s life”. Bees, I have NO IDEA where all of this is coming from, because like I’ve mentioned in other posts, she has always for the most part been friendly to me and has treated me like one of her own. Her behavior toward everyone else is exactly the same as it always has been, the doctor has given her a complete clean bill of health so I KNOW there is no dementia or age-related madness going on there, so I just have to assume that she is turning into the Mother-In-Law From Hell.
She told me that her problem with me started after Darling Husband stopped using his house (with the biggest yard and patio) as the family gathering spot for every holiday, birthday, and reunion not too long after I moved in with him (he stopped that because he was tired of his house getting trashed by everyone’s kids and teens, things were coming up missing, and no one ever offered to help clean up afterward or even to host an event or two themselves), but that the ultimate insult came after we changed all the locks and decided not to “hand out keys to the family”…that is the reason we changed the locks, every family member in town had a key and we were coming home sometimes to find that someone had been there while we were gone. They came in one day and decorated the inside of our house for Christmas WITHOUT OUR PERMISSION, going into the attic to drag down the tree and decorations, rearranging stuff in the living room to set up the tree, etc.!!! What couple wouldn’t change the friggin’ locks?!?
Anyway, she told me that “as the head of the family” she has keys to everyone’s homes in order to come and go as she pleases, and that I’m the reason she is now being denied access to her son’s home and that she doesn’t appreciate it. She said her son was “never worried about privacy from his family before (I) came along, so that must mean (I) have something to hide and (I’m) dragging him down, interrupting the family lifestyle, and alienating him from the woman who should always be first in his life”…HER!!! She also told me that she actually plans on moving into our house at some point in the future, and that it has always been understood that she is the lady of DH’s house, and that with me “merely being the second wife” I have no claim over anything of his and therefore no say-so in how his property is used. Granted, he was living in bachelorhood for MANY years so I can see family possibly having more unrestricted access to a bachelor’s home, but when I moved in it became a COUPLE’S home, and couples don’t need everyone running free-range around their home at will.
I barely said a handful of words to her the entire time except to tell her that until further notice Darling Husband and I BOTH agreed she was not to come to our home, and that if she has issues with this or doesn’t believe her son agreed to this to please call and ask him herself. I knew if I opened my mouth more I would TOTALLY go off on her and not stop, and a public restaurant was not the place for that. I called Darling Husband and told him what happened and that I have the entire thing recorded for him to listen to this evening, and plans to listen then confront her himself on Saturday. UGH!!!!!!!
The woman is now my worst nightmare!!! 🙁