Post # 91
Just finished reading all these responses and I just want to say I love this thread! I’m dying to see what she says!
FWIW, my boyfriend and I have always known we’d eventually get married and we talked about it a lot. We discussed engagement rings and decided we wanted to design one together. I’ve seen the CADs and it’s in production now, but I won’t be allowed to see it in person until he proposes – which will be a total surprise to me. He has something planned but I have no idea what it is and I couldn’t be more excited! So there IS a way to discuss getting engaged without taking any of the surprise out of it.
Post # 92
So basically here is what I said in a nutshell summed up:
I have thought about this long and hard and hate to bring this up, but at the same time, I feel like I need to. I love you, want to spend forever with you, etc. You know how I am a thinker and a planner, and whether this happens in the next 6 months or the next 6 years… I have been thinking about it. If/when the time ever comes for us to take the next step. I have been thinking about “the ring”. I know that is probably the most important physical item a woman will ever own and although I know you well, Im still just a dude and I want to make sure if I ever bought you one, it is something that you would love and not be ashamed of, etc. Then said, I have creeped on your pinterest and have seen quite a few rings you have pinned over time and noticed alot of them are not your traditional diamond ring that a dumb guy like me would think of. I see alot of them are emeralnds, morganite and moissanites. So i have to google and youtube them just to see what they are, apprently they are alot more popular than i ever imaged and for good reasons. They are still very nice, conflict free and people arent dying over them, etc. But I want to know, are you aware of this or are you just thinking they are diamonds and liking the style of the ring?
her resonse was something like:<br />im amazing, blah blah 🙂 and said, what exactly are you asking? do you just want me to pin rings i like for the next 6 years? lol… but then said yes, she is aware they are not all diamonds and sometimes it is as simple as just liking the style. But said she likes oval and pear shape… (ummmm not what i had gathered so glad i asked) and said she definetly likes rose or yellow gold! and said she definetely doesnt want to wear something that someone, usually a child had to die over. she said she likes rose gold morganite and cruelty free diamonds and said she likes both, just doesnt want something someone died over.
so althought she never really specifically answered the question about the moissanite, she did confirm she likes the morganite… so i wasnt thinking pear or oval or morganite…. i was thinking round or cushion moissanite…. ummmm, guess Im glad I asked
Post # 93
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
It looks like she really doesn’t want white gold!
Post # 94
I don’t think morganite is a good choice for an ering unless she is ok with having to eventually replace the stone. They’re softer and prone to scratching and becoming dull.
Post # 95
Well I’m glad you spoke with her because it turns out she liked different things than she had pinned previously!
Post # 96
I’m glad you spoke to her about it, so you can find something she loves.
Post # 97
- Wedding: March 2015 - The fire gardens bonsall, ca
Look. If she would say no based on the ring… then maybe she isn’t the one. The ring isn’t permanent. If she says yes and then you find out she would have prefered a smaller ring, then take it back and pick out one together.
My fiance proposed with a beautiful three stone ring. I love it. When we would talk to people they always seemed to be surprised it was an engagement ring. So when we got married he surprised me with a whole new set that he said is more bridal. Now I have a beautiful righthand ring and a beautiful bridal set.
Point of that is, a girl who decides to marry based on the e-ring seems like someone who isn’t in it for love. You know what she would like go with your gut.
Post # 98
She sounds a lot like me. I love the look of morganite and rose gold.. May I suggest LaMore designs on Etsy? Mine is from her and it is SO nice. Nicer than the pictures. Here are two I thought of:
About it being a softer stone, I have had one and had one for years before. I would rather have a little color and uniqueness than durability. it also wont break the bank to replace the stone should you ever need to.
Post # 99
wow, thank you…. those both look just like what she has in mind from what I can tell… under $900? wow…
Post # 100
read her shop reviews, nobody is disappointed. My ring sparkles like crazy, it is a aquamarine though, but I wish dh had gone for Morganite. 😉
Post # 101
- Wedding: County courthouse
It is not ok to propose with a diamond alternative without her knowing what it is. Do you really want to start of a marriage with lies? Just talk to her about it. If she says no to moissanite…well than she’s getting a smaller diamond center that you can afford. $10,000 for a piece of jewelry is ridiculous…especially if you can’t afford it.
Post # 102
I just wanted to add to my comment about morganite. I suggest a peachy pink sapphire instead. More sparkle and more durability/longevity with a color that really goes with rose gold.
Also, I’d be weary of heavily pavè-d rings under 1,000 unless it comes with a very good warranty. You do get what you pay for with a mass produced setting. If you have to have stones replaced multiple times, it stops being a bargain.
If you are leaning towards a colored stone, I suggest posting on the PriceScope colored stone forum and having them help you source a good one. This is your engagement ring – it is for a lifetime. I personally wouldn’t go with Etsy for this purchase. Get a nice loose stone and have a setting custom made by a reputable jeweler. That way it’s unique and long lasting, and shows youve put a lot of thought into it, which is super romantic.
Otherwise, get a diamond. You seem to be very concerned with getting the right ring, and I don’t think getting a cheaper pavé setting with a soft stone from Etsy is the way to go for getting a ring that’s supposed to last a lifetime. Just my two cents.
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Post # 104
i agree, even though it might be nice on Etsy, i would prefer something a little more solid and durable I think. Who knows, it may be great. But something like this just looks like it may last a bit longer
Post # 105
I would trust Blue Nile more than SamNSue. Blue Nile has been in business quite a long time. I would read up on reviews on both before buying.