(Closed) Is it acceptable to propose with a diamond alternative without her knowing?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 91
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Blushing bee

Just finished reading all these responses and I just want to say I love this thread!  I’m dying to see what she says!

FWIW, my boyfriend and I have always known we’d eventually get married and we talked about it a lot.  We discussed engagement rings and decided we wanted to design one together.  I’ve seen the CADs and it’s in production now, but I won’t be allowed to see it in person until he proposes – which will be a total surprise to me.  He has something planned but I have no idea what it is and I couldn’t be more excited!  So there IS a way to discuss getting engaged without taking any of the surprise out of it. 

Good Luck!!! 

Post # 93
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

It looks like she really doesn’t want white gold! 

Post # 94
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Helper bee

I don’t think morganite is a good choice for an ering unless she is ok with having to eventually replace the stone. They’re softer and prone to scratching and becoming dull.

Post # 95
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Well I’m glad you spoke with her because it turns out she liked different things than she had pinned previously!

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 7 months ago by  MrsA44.
Post # 96
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

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AllenScott:  I’m glad you spoke to her about it, so you can find something she loves. 

Post # 97
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - The fire gardens bonsall, ca

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AllenScott:  Look.  If she would say no based on the ring… then maybe she isn’t the one.  The ring isn’t permanent.  If she says yes and then you find out she would have prefered a smaller ring, then take it back and pick out one together.

My fiance proposed with a beautiful three stone ring.  I love it.  When we would talk to people they always seemed to be surprised it was an engagement ring.  So when we got married he surprised me with a whole new set that he said is more bridal.  Now I have a beautiful righthand ring and a beautiful bridal set. 

Point of that is, a girl who decides to marry based on the e-ring seems like someone who isn’t in it for love.  You know what she would like go with your gut. 

Post # 98
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Newbee

She sounds a lot like me.  I love the look of morganite and rose gold..  May I suggest LaMore designs on Etsy?  Mine is from her and it is SO nice.  Nicer than the pictures.  Here are two I thought of:

 

https://www.etsy.com/listing/186442898/pinkish-peach-morganite-engagement-ring?ref=shop_home_active_9&ga_search_query=morganite

 

https://www.etsy.com/listing/194339187/halo-diamond-and-morganite-engagement?ref=shop_home_active_4&ga_search_query=morganite

About it being a softer stone, I have had one and had one for years before.  I would rather have a little color and uniqueness than durability.  it also wont break the bank to replace the stone should you ever need to.  

 

Post # 100
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Newbee

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AllenScott:  read her shop reviews, nobody is disappointed.  My ring sparkles like crazy, it is a aquamarine though, but I wish dh had gone for Morganite. 😉

 

 

Post # 101
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: County courthouse

It is not ok to propose with a diamond alternative without her knowing what it is. Do you really want to start of a marriage with lies? Just talk to her about it. If she says no to moissanite…well than she’s getting a smaller diamond center that you can afford. $10,000 for a piece of jewelry is ridiculous…especially if you can’t afford it.

Post # 102
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Helper bee

I just wanted to add to my comment about morganite. I suggest a peachy pink sapphire instead. More sparkle and more durability/longevity with a color that really goes with rose gold. 

Also, I’d be weary of heavily pavè-d rings under 1,000 unless it comes with a very good warranty. You do get what you pay for with a mass produced setting. If you have to have stones replaced multiple times, it stops being a bargain.

If you are leaning towards a colored stone, I suggest posting on the PriceScope colored stone forum and having them help you source a good one. This is your engagement ring – it is for a lifetime. I personally wouldn’t go with Etsy for this purchase. Get a nice loose stone and have a setting custom made by a reputable jeweler. That way it’s unique and long lasting, and shows youve put a lot of thought into it, which is super romantic. 

Otherwise, get a diamond. You seem to be very concerned with getting the right ring, and I don’t think getting a cheaper pavé setting with a soft stone from Etsy is the way to go for getting a ring that’s supposed to last a lifetime. Just my two cents.

Post # 105
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Busy bee

I would trust Blue Nile more than SamNSue.  Blue Nile has been in business quite a long time.  I would read up on reviews on both before buying.

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