(Closed) Is it acceptable to spend more on bridesmaids than groomsmen?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think part of it depends on how close you all are together and how you’ll be handing out the gifts. 

There’s no rule that they all have to cost the same, but that seems like a pretty big difference in gifts, and it may be awkward if they’re opened at the rehearsal dinner or if everyone usually hangs out together.

What does your Fiance think?

Post # 4
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

For us we did spend less on our guys than our girls, but we also had 5 girls and 6 guys so I could.


For our guys we got their ties and we also got them personalized Swiss Army Knives. Ties were 10 and the knives were 40.. So we spent about 50 per guy.

For my girls they all got a tote, scarf for their jewelry, a hair clip for their jewelry, Flats for the reception, candles, snacks and other little things and then each girl got something that was personalized to them:


Moh Cass: Cups and wall decals from her registry (She’s getting married June 17th)

Moh Aub: Got headphones from Apple and a giftcard to Itunes

Bm Al: Shakespeare book, makeup, and a little pig

Bm Sarah: Starbucks mug and starbucks giftcard

Bm Jade: Notebook, Pens, Pencils, and a giftcard to a bookstore


I think I spent around 75 per girl, which worked okay because they helped so much more. 


I don’t think you should do a significant amount difference, but if you did decide to then it would be better to do the gifts at different times so no one felt offended.

Post # 5
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m getting my girls a pretty substantial gift compared to what Fiance is getting the g-men. I only have four, though, and he has eight. I’m going to give it to them the weekend of my shower/bachelorette so it won’t be in front of the boys. I think Fiance will probably give the guys theirs during the bachelor party. I think it’s okay as long as it’s kind of sneaky :). I wouldn’t want to rub it in their faces or anything, but I seriously doubt they’ll care.

Post # 7
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I feel like as a bridesmaid I’ve always received a better gift than the GM’s.

Post # 8
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

 What brand are the ties? Because if they are good brand then they guys wont know that you only spent $15 on them because there are some times that are quite  pricey

Post # 9
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think guys don’t really know as much about weddings as women. I’m definitely spending less on the guys.

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