- 7 months ago
Today was rough. This morning I witnessed the firing of my coworker and friend of two years. This person trained me and we’ve seen each other earn promotions and go through life events and I really value the bond we’ve developed. Two days ago I was told he would be fired. He’s had a long history of being combative with management. I don’t condone this behavior and did what I could to set a positive example, but he just hasn’t improved. So it wasn’t surprising, but it is hard. I’ve never seen him look and sound so sad, and I worry about how he’ll recover, and I feel like the closeness of our relationship warrants some gesture from me. I want to wish him well and tell him I think he’s a great person with immeasurable potential but I’m worried because I am a part of the management team. I was not solely responsible for letting him go but I was consulted and as much as I care about him, I stand by the company’s decision. Is it unprofessional for me to text him something heartfelt? I’m afraid he may be feeling like our whole work friendship has been fake and I want him to know that I genuinely believe he’s kind, smart, and capable of great things. But I’m not sure if that’s the right move right now. Is there any way that something like that could get me in trouble at work if it got back to my boss? And am I the last person he wants to hear sympathy from right now? Should I give it time? Any thoughts appreciated.