Post # 47
Because “and guest” was listed, it’s implied she ‘s OK with a guest, not specificially your Fiance. I’d ask, of course, but maybe she realizes that you lvie far away and don’t want to feel like you have to go alone.
I was recently invited to a wedding with my Fiance. He can’t make it, so I sent my RSVP card just for me. I got a text from the bride telling me that I could bring anyone else- sister, friend, guy off the street- even though I’ll know quite a few people there. Some people are really chill about it.
Post # 49
I hope the bride said yes! I get that some brides and grooms want to know everyone at their wedding, so they might not like it if you brought a friend- but you are making a long drive! That should definitely count for something.
Post # 50
I think the fact that your FI’s name was on the STD and the invite just said “and guest” is a great excuse to call and ask. Just let her know that your fiance can’t attend but since the two pieces were addressed differently you weren’t sure whether it would be appropriate to bring a friend.
I totally understand brides that feel either way on this issue and if she doesn’t want your friend to come that’s fine. Personally, the fact that you’re traveling from afar and won’t know many people at the wedding would lead me to say you can absolutely bring a friend as your guest so that you’ll feel comfortable.
Post # 51
I think you should definitely ask your friend for this one. She might be ok with it, but you don’t want to just assume that she would be ok with it and then her be upset by it. Better safe than sorry 🙂
Post # 52
I think you are waaayyy too worried about this. Just ask the bride, this will not cause any confrontation at all. You’ll come across as very courteous, since you made sure to ask. The bride will be very happy you asked because she will not want to have to make the long drive alone, nor have you feeling alone and left out at the wedding. She’s already budgeted for you to have a plus 1, so you are totally, totally, fine asking about this.
I’ve got one single friend who’s making the long drive to my wedding, just as you are, and I made sure to list “and guest” on her invite so she could bring anyone she wants. I’m pretty positive she won’t know anyone there, and so my primary concern was making sure she’d feel comfortable at my wedding. I couldn’t possibly enjoy my wedding if I didn’t make accomodations for my guests’ enjoyment as well.
Post # 54
@LabDarling: I just recently had my wedding and a few people who I invited couldn’t bring their significant other they either asked me if they could bring a friend/someone else of if they didn’t ask I just told them to go ahead and bring someone else if they liked. I personally didn’t have a problem with it at all but I know a lot of other brides would. Just depends on the bride, ask her politely 😛
Post # 55
@Duncan: I have said more than once in this thread that I wouldn’t substitute without ASKING first. My point was whether I should just go alone and not even ask to bring a friend.
Post # 56
@bklynbridetobe: Working on getting up the nerve to ask. I am actually mailing out my save the dates today, so i was gonna wait til sometime next week when i know she will have gotten her save the date to MY wedding with her own plus one so then she knows her gesture will be reciprocated when she has to travel to me!