(Closed) Is it bad etiquette to call guests who haven’t RSVP’d?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it bad etiquette to call guests who have not responded if the RSVP date has passed?
    Yes : (10 votes)
    10 %
    No : (95 votes)
    90 %
    Maybe, Maybe not, I'll explain below : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    It is not bad etiquette.  Some people might have forgotte the RSVP and you don’t want to assume they aren’t coming and then not have enough food for everyone.

    Post # 4
    Member
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Not bad manners – you have to know who’s coming!!

    Post # 5
    Member
    50 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Woah just got confused and voted wrong. I voted “No” cause I read the original question – is it bad etiquette to call. Now I reread the poll question – is it ok to call. Count me as a Yes. Of course you can and should call non-RSVP’ers.  Some of our non-RSVP’ers had invitations that got lost in the mail, or were Super-apologetic for not responding etc.

    Post # 6
    Member
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Definitely not bad manners. As you said, things are priced per person, and there probably won’t be extra chairs if these people suddenly decide to show.

    Post # 7
    Member
    365 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    My mom told me that if they are rude enough to not rsvp then you can be rude enough to call and ask. You will be the one effected if they don’t show up and u paid for them or if they do show up and you didn’t pay for them. I say go ahead and call them I would.

    Post # 8
    Member
    38 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I messed up too! It is okay to call! Maybe you should reword the poll for those of us who get confused! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 9
    Member
    2532 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Not bad etiquette at all. You need to know and how else will you find out!? People can be forgetful too so they probably will be happy for the reminder!

    Post # 12
    Member
    5154 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Nope! You need to know those numbers and sometimes people just forget or loose the rsvp card! Feel free to call, they’ll prob. be glad you did ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 13
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    But now that makes my answer wrong *sad face*.

    Post # 15
    Member
    278 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I feel like your plan is more than accommodating by even giving them a few extra days. If they can’t bother to RSVP, they shouldn’t be bothered by one phone call.

    Post # 16
    Member
    820 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    You are not wrong! I’m not sure if I’d call it bad etiquette or not, but even if it is, I would recommend doing it. We had several people not RSVP (and we gave them a week past the deadline). When we called them, they were not all necessarily no’s. Some people came to the wedding and we would not have known if we hadn’t called. Also, one couple sent it in and it got lost, which was fine but they also sent a $200 check in the RSVP card, and would not have known to cancel it if we hadn’t called- they were actually really grateful we did. Just call!

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