(Closed) Is it bad if the groom wears a white tux for the wedding…

posted 7 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
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Helper bee

Hmmmm, usually the bride is the only one that wears white. I don’t know if I would encourage the white suit – it is your day! (And then there is the question if the others groomsmen will wear white?)

Good luck πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think theres anything wrong with the groom wearing white too (aside from the fact that I personally do not like white tuxes).

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

White tux jackets are a big trend right now. It was very popular in the 1950’s and it’s becoming trendy again. This is just for the jacket, not the disco matching pants lol! πŸ™‚

i think it really works when the man is super handsome. Just saw a wedding in Santa Barbara and the guy was d.r.e.a.m.y! Dinner jackets rock on the right guy.

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Post # 7
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Busy bee

Well, Historically speaking, white has nothing to do with a bride..there just was an embargo on dye and brides were forced to make white dresses as opposed to before where they wore their best dress which were more often than not vibrant colors and the habit just stuck. There is nothing WRONG with a white tux in theory lol. With that being said, I think white tuxes are extremely (and I cringe as I say this…) tacky… 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

I think it’s fine as long as only the two of you are in white (anyone else is a big faux pas). I LOVE the white jacket idea. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m not such a fan of white tuxes…something screams “prom” to me. But those pictures posted above are pretty hot.

Post # 11
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Wannabee

These days most people are in the habit of just “doing what they want.” It’s the Burger King mantrum: “Have it your way,” and so far be it from me to tell anyone what to do on his or her big day.

For those who value rituals just a cut above Burger King, though…

The short answer is no, a white tux is not appropriate wedding attire. No tux is appropriate.

To begin with, a tuxedo is appropriate semi-formal evening wear conceived for routine social dinners, balls or galas. However, a wedding has a definitive and occasional purpose and a tuxedo is out of place there. Such a formal (i.e., respecting FORMS) evening event calls for white tie, not a tuxedo.

For that matter, neither Church nor a civil ceremony would take place in the evening and therefore neither would be an appropriate venue for a man to show off either tux OR white tie. The appropriate attire, assuming one does not possess regal or military gala uniform, is morning suit (long charcoal coat, grey striped trousers, waistcoat and cravat).

These days it is rare that one can afford to have both a morning suit AND white tie ensemble on hand. It is perfectly acceptable to wear daytime attire (morning suit) into the evening; the reverse however is not true.

If one cannot afford a morning suit? A standard lounge suit will do just fine for both the ceremony and the party. It is honest, modest and dignified. But IF you can afford a tux, I promise you can afford a morning suit.

I know saying this frightens my fellow men (I had to talk a friend our of wearing a tux to his wedding at the Notre Dame Cathedral in Paris!) because in many social circles they just aren’t habituated to the morning suit or to formal dress codes and grades. But on a highly special occasion, my view is that it’s worth making an effort to follow the old traditions, including those that mass society has carelessly discarded. And since so many have forgotten, reviving a classic is a fun way to be distinctive!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Yeah, FI’s already mentioned wearing a white suit.

I hope to god he was joking…

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My husband-to-be is keen on wearing a white tux as well.. I mean, maybe a suit, rather than a tux considering the occasion, but white nonetheless. And I’m fine with it – it’s one of the few things he has spoken up about in regards to wedding planning so I’m all for it πŸ™‚

I know this is a pic of a suit, but just if you’re wondering what it could look like:

No scary Saturday Night Fever vibe there at all πŸ˜‰

As for the bride being the only one in white, I don’t think it’s a tradition (as far as I know) so go for it! There’s also that little joke, I don’t know if you’ve heard it:

 

Little boy at wedding to his father: Hey Dad, why does the bride wear white?

Father: Because white is a light and happy colour and it’s the happiest day of the bride’s life.

Little boy: So why is the groom wearing black….?

 

So… after hearing this joke I’m kind of glad my fiance wants to wear white too! Plus I’ll feel like I won’t stand out as much, heheh…

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

My husband wore all white and I think he looked AWESOME

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@DJones69:  Ooh can you show us what he wore/give us a link please? πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Future_Sovesky:  Ok, so white dinner (tuxedo) jackets.  A few things:

1. Real ones are off-white/ivory, because they are wool.  Wool yellows over time, and bleach damages the fabric, so they are not pure white.

2. They have self-faced lapels – satin or other faced lapels are incorrect, and don’t look very good.

3. As PP said, only the jacket is white.  The pants are not.

4. These are considered “warm weather black tie” so they are appropriate in the late spring and summer, or year round in hot climates.

5. It is worn with a black cummerbund, generally, as the whole idea is that it is not as hot as a black jacket, so a vest underneath would defeat the purpose.  It might also show through the jacket if it’s black.

6. WHITE suspenders are advisable, as black may be visible through the jacket.

7. One wears a WHITE shirt, not ivory, under an ivory dinner jacket.  As the ivory jacket is less formal than black, a turndown collar is correct.

8. The correct tie is a black bow tie.  because the lapels are self-faced, one has choice of satin, grosgrain, barathea, velvet, or faille.

Those of you who are thinking “AAAH!!! PROM!!!” are likely envisioning polyester (or blend at best) jackets with satin-faced lapels.

This look is what you’re after – though there is no waist covering in this ensemble, which is technically incorrect, but less of a sin with a white DJ, as the “shirt navel” is less pronounced.  Also, a shawl collar is more common on a white DJ than the peak lapel shown here, though both are equally correct.

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