Ok, I am pretty superstitious when it comes to this stuff… so I’ll tell you what I did.
BEFORE any proposal, Mr TTR and I discussed our Life Plans / Time Line. He knew where I stood on this whole subject… wanted to be engaged and hopefully married before the end of 2012.
I told him this about a year ago now… around the time of our 6th Anniversary of Dating.
I also told him as I had been married before, that it was important to me that my E-Ring not be anything like my previous one… and that my Ex-H and I had shopped together, and I liked that… because not all rings suit all fingers. He’d never heard of that… he only knew it as the guy picks out and buys the ring… and then surprises the girl with it.
I told him that made me nervous… because I would have to wear it 24/7×365 and I had better like it (and I reiterated, that I have short stubby fingers and so not all things suit me)
Of course this was long before I joined WBee… so I didn’t know anything about Proposals without Rings, Stand-In Rings, or Gals who use Pinterest to drop hints (pick favourites)
He said, okey-dokey… Proposal before end of 2012… maybe even a Wedding. And we’d pick out a ring together.
So around Christmas I started doing some serious browsing… the Holiday Flyers that came with the Newspaper, window shopping on the street… looking in the display cases at the Jewellery stores in the Mall… a bit of website surfing. Never tried anything on (superstitious for sure… I didn’t want to do that before he either Proposed or said we should go shopping together for the ring), but I did get a feel for what was out there, and what I might like and what most certainly I didn’t like.
Then he left me hanging for 5 months… thru our Anniversary – our Chirstmas Vacation – Christmas Eve – Christmas Day – New Years Eve – New Years Day – our Winter Getaway Vacation – Valentines Day and My Birthday. Even thru Ground Hog Day, St Patricks Day, and April Fools. I had pretty much given up… when we headed off for our Easter Vacation.
So he totally caught me off-guard when I got my “Non-Proposal” then… No Ring, No Bended Knee… just “Hey we should get married here he next time we are in town”
With my Non-Proposal, I was off… Next Day to the Mall for a serious look see. And I tried on rings ON MY RIGHT HAND… lol, because I’m superstitious
Once we were back home after vacation, we went out together to look… and it took us 6 weeks to find THE RING
All the while, I was trying them on my Right Hand… that was until I was pretty sure I had narrowed it down to 2 I was most certainly IN LOVE with. And with Hubby-2-B right beside me, I said “It is most certainly one of these 2″… so he said, “well then, which one”… and at that point I tried each on my left hand ring finger. And made my choice
He negotiated the deal… and we had purchased an Engagement Ring. Two weeks later the Jewellery Store called to say the setting was in, the ring had been sized, and the feature diamond we chose, in place. And so we made a date to go pick up the ring.
Hubby slipped it on my ring finger… gave me a kiss. And as of that moment, I considered us OFFICIALLY ENGAGED
Now I realize that not every girl is as superstitious as I am when it comes to “Wedding Karma”… but I’m an Encore Bride… and well lets just say I don’t want to mess with anything that could jinx what I have this time round (I had enough horrible luck / stuff happen in my first marriage)
Hope this helps,
PS… If your fingers are the same or close in size between your two ring fingers, you can most certainly get a feel for / idea of how something will look on your WEDDING FINGER.
PPS… I am similarly superstitious about Wedding Rings as well. For example I would NEVER try anyone else’s on my own Wedding Finger (if I was to try them on at all). We haven’t bought my W-Band yet, but I imagine the scenario will be quite similar to the one I went thru for my E-Ring
EDIT TO ADD…
AND it never hurts to window shop for jewellery… or learn all you can about Diamonds. An educated consumer is a better consumer, and you won’t get “sucked in” by some of the stuff the clerks tell you (not all 100% factual / honest) or distracted by all that glitter. You have to remember that in most cases the Salesperson is on a commission… so they really really want you to buy from them. They’ll tug at your heart strings… with stories of Sales, Limited Time, Exclusive, Last One… etc OR they’ll have an Agenda (Commission Bonus) for getting you to buy a particular name-brand etc that particular Day / Week / Month.
I never regretted my taking the time to learn as much as I could about Diamonds & Fine Jewellery (Blue Nile has an excellent Education Section) because there were certainly people who didn’t tell me the full story… or tried to pull one over on me (especially in regards to the 4Cs). And lots of folks who I discovered down-played the 5th & 6th Cs… Certification and Conflict-Free Diamonds. Or pooh-poohed any concerns for the 7th C… COST. Many actually offering financing deals (again another way that they make commission).