Is it bad luck to think about wedding things before being engaged

posted 1 month ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

That’s dumb. I day dream about things that haven’t happened all the time. I make mock itineraries for trips I know I won’t be taking for years. There’s nothing with doing research or picking color schemes and knowing what aesthetic you like. People pick baby names years before they have kids and no one bats an eye. I do think making concrete plans like booking vendors or buying a dress befoee being engaged is too much, but I don’t buy into the whole “bad luck” aspect. I’m also not very superstitious either.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

Do you plan for a degree before you’ve achieved it? Consider all the ramifications of a job choice before you accept it? Check out neighborhoods and real estate for years before you buy? Your friend is silly. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

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@joannesink:  

Not at all. I literally had a full wedding binder before we got engaged. I knew he was planning on proposing before end of October 2021 and our original plan was to get married summer 2022. Knowing there was only going to be a 9 month gap it was great to think about guest lists, logistics, potential venues, etc., even if it was only in brainstorming mode.

We got engaged in September 2021, but had bought a house in July 2021. Our original plan was a house in 2023, but we changed gears. We’ve moved the wedding to summer 2023. It’s nice to know I’ve already done a lot of the background stuff and have a good idea for options. We’re planning to start properly planning in February 2022 once my car is paid off.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

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@joannesink:  

Absoluterly. We had started saving for a wedding as well, but ended up using that towards our down payment.

It’s helpful to know how much things in your area cost so you can be realistic with budget and saving!

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Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I think buying wedding dresses and all that before getting engaged is a bit crazy, but just *THINKING* about stuff? No, I don’t think thought police will come ruin your engagement lol. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

And that’s what secret Pinterest boards are for!! wink

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I’ve never even heard of this. There are some superstitions out there about wedding stuff, but this is new and impractical. Are you sure she didn’t make it up because she was tired of hearing you talk wedding?

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

I think having ideas about what you want for yourself in the future is totally healthy, and certainly not bad luck. As soon as I knew my relationship was headed towards marriage, I started looking at engagement rings, venues, and dress styles.

We are officially engaged now, and I am really glad that I spent time thinking about all of those things. Now that the time to make a plan is really here, I feel prepared rather than overwhelmed, and my conversations with my fiance are more productive because I have done some research on these topics. 

Thinking about our engagement and wedding also helped open up conversations about our future, which I think was reassuring for both of us. It allowed us to dream together and to feel secure in the fact that we are on the same page and equally committed. 

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