Is it bad luck to wear your wedding band before the ceremony??!

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Is wearing your wedding band before the ceremony bad luck/do you care?
    Yes it is, and I wouldn't do this. : (38 votes)
    16 %
    I have heard of this, but don't believe in superstition : (73 votes)
    31 %
    I have never heard of this : (102 votes)
    43 %
    I am wearing my wedding band/FI is before the ceremony-whats the big deal? : (23 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    7656 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Hubby never wore it all the time but every so often he would put it on for a while. Depends on if you are superstitious. I am not, so I don’t believe in it. It’s just like when they say its bad luck to see the bride before the wedding. If that is true, hubby and I are doomed because that was the only way we could fit out pictures in 🙂

    Post # 4
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    684 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    My partner was wearing the wedding band on his right hand for months before the wedding. As soon as I showed it to him he snatched it up and would not give it back. So I thought whatever makes him happy 🙂

    He saw me on the weddingt day too, we went diving in the morning & had lunch together afterwards.

    Does it mean our marriage is going to fail?

     

    Post # 5
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    1719 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @fivemonthsnotice:  My FI wore his as soon as he got his. He said the same thing your FI said.  He was ready to get married as soon as he proposed. //  My mom was all worked up telling me not to wear mine but told me the FI can because he doesn’t believe in superstitions so it won’t matter to him.  I was more concerned with a scratched up band than bad luck.  lol

    Post # 6
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    2137 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    i dont believe in it, but i didnt let FI wear his and i dont wear mine.

    Post # 7
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    352 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I answered before I read but we Only wore our for the first look pictures not months before. I am glad we didn’t I think it is more special for me now seeing him with the ring on and knowing it symbolizes our marriage. But to each there own. It is cute that they are so excited they just want to wear it 🙂 very sweet

    Post # 8
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    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I have a few  thoughts on this…

    1. You’re going to wear the wedding ring (presumably) for the rest of your life.  Why do you have to start early?

    2. It’s a WEDDING band not just some pretty piece of jewelry.  You’re not married yet.

    3. However, if all you have to do is avoid doing things that are “bad luck” for a marriage, the divorce rate wouldn’t be so high.

    Post # 9
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    356 posts
    Helper bee

    @fivemonthsnotice:  My FI does the same thing, he loves wearing it around the apartment. Part of it as well is that he has never worn a ring before and wants to get used to how it feels before its stuck on for eternity haha. I will also slip mine on every so often, I can’t get enough of seeing the band together with my E-ring! We don’t keep them on for very long and just do it at home. I have heard of the “bad luck” of it, but I have also stepped on sidewalk cracks and my mothers back is just fine 🙂

    Post # 10
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    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ve not heard of the superstition, but I would not do it. It still seems….wrong, somehow? You obviously cant talk your FI out of it, but to me, I don’t see the point. The band is made important by the vows you make as its put on your finger. Wearing it before that moment would cheapen it, for me.

    Post # 11
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    2216 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    The first day FI got his band in the mail, he wore it around for some errands.  He just wanted to see how it felt.  It looked weird because he had a wedding band on and I didn’t; probably confused some people. He hasn’t worn it since.

    I slip my wedding band on every once in while when I’m around the house, because its so pretty.

    I didn’t realize this was bad luck, lol.

    Post # 12
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    2335 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I don’t think its bad luck, but I also don’t think someone should wear a wedding band when they aren’t married.  Trying it on every once in a while is one thing…around town all day is a no-go for me.

    Post # 13
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    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think people should do whatever they want. The end.

    Post # 14
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    7999 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    Bad luck is just shorthand in a lot of cases for “inappropriate” or “frowned upon”. For example: “It’s bad luck to wear a ring on your left hand ring finger unless you are engaged”.

    Well sure. Imagine if you are single and you buy yourself a nice gemstone. Then, a prospective man sees it on your ring finger and assumes it’s an engagement ring… they might just keep walking, rather than come over and chat you up.

    As for the wedding ring… by wearing the ring, you are showing the world that you are married. But you are not. I can understand doing this if you are a single person who doesn’t want to be hit on, for whatever reason (ie a lone woman traveller in India). But why would you do this unless you had specific reasons? The ring symbolises a lifelong bond… it’s not just a bit of bling which you should shove on without thought. So yes, I think it’s bad luck because it shows a somewhat casual attitude to what wedding rings represent. Sorry guys, that’s just my two cents.

    Post # 15
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    2810 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    DH wore his for a full year before we got married. If there’s any truth to this old superstition, I’d say we’re screwed hahaha!

    Post # 16
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    10368 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I don’t believe in luck!

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