Post # 1
My FI has been sporting his wedding band since we picked it up from the jewellers. He was ready to marry me months ago, he says, and he wants to wear it. Yesterday we were at a family function and his aunt bit his head off, telling him pretty emphatically “ITS BAD LUCK! HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN WEARING THAT??!” (mortified).
We haven’t heard of this. Is this true, and do you believe in that?
Post # 3
Hubby never wore it all the time but every so often he would put it on for a while. Depends on if you are superstitious. I am not, so I don’t believe in it. It’s just like when they say its bad luck to see the bride before the wedding. If that is true, hubby and I are doomed because that was the only way we could fit out pictures in 🙂
Post # 4
My partner was wearing the wedding band on his right hand for months before the wedding. As soon as I showed it to him he snatched it up and would not give it back. So I thought whatever makes him happy 🙂
He saw me on the weddingt day too, we went diving in the morning & had lunch together afterwards.
Does it mean our marriage is going to fail?
Post # 5
@fivemonthsnotice: My FI wore his as soon as he got his. He said the same thing your FI said. He was ready to get married as soon as he proposed. // My mom was all worked up telling me not to wear mine but told me the FI can because he doesn’t believe in superstitions so it won’t matter to him. I was more concerned with a scratched up band than bad luck. lol
Post # 6
i dont believe in it, but i didnt let FI wear his and i dont wear mine.
Post # 7
I answered before I read but we Only wore our for the first look pictures not months before. I am glad we didn’t I think it is more special for me now seeing him with the ring on and knowing it symbolizes our marriage. But to each there own. It is cute that they are so excited they just want to wear it 🙂 very sweet
Post # 8
I have a few thoughts on this…
1. You’re going to wear the wedding ring (presumably) for the rest of your life. Why do you have to start early?
2. It’s a WEDDING band not just some pretty piece of jewelry. You’re not married yet.
3. However, if all you have to do is avoid doing things that are “bad luck” for a marriage, the divorce rate wouldn’t be so high.
Post # 9
@fivemonthsnotice: My FI does the same thing, he loves wearing it around the apartment. Part of it as well is that he has never worn a ring before and wants to get used to how it feels before its stuck on for eternity haha. I will also slip mine on every so often, I can’t get enough of seeing the band together with my E-ring! We don’t keep them on for very long and just do it at home. I have heard of the “bad luck” of it, but I have also stepped on sidewalk cracks and my mothers back is just fine 🙂
Post # 10
I’ve not heard of the superstition, but I would not do it. It still seems….wrong, somehow? You obviously cant talk your FI out of it, but to me, I don’t see the point. The band is made important by the vows you make as its put on your finger. Wearing it before that moment would cheapen it, for me.
Post # 11
The first day FI got his band in the mail, he wore it around for some errands. He just wanted to see how it felt. It looked weird because he had a wedding band on and I didn’t; probably confused some people. He hasn’t worn it since.
I slip my wedding band on every once in while when I’m around the house, because its so pretty.
I didn’t realize this was bad luck, lol.
Post # 12
I don’t think its bad luck, but I also don’t think someone should wear a wedding band when they aren’t married. Trying it on every once in a while is one thing…around town all day is a no-go for me.
Post # 13
I think people should do whatever they want. The end.
Post # 14
Bad luck is just shorthand in a lot of cases for “inappropriate” or “frowned upon”. For example: “It’s bad luck to wear a ring on your left hand ring finger unless you are engaged”.
Well sure. Imagine if you are single and you buy yourself a nice gemstone. Then, a prospective man sees it on your ring finger and assumes it’s an engagement ring… they might just keep walking, rather than come over and chat you up.
As for the wedding ring… by wearing the ring, you are showing the world that you are married. But you are not. I can understand doing this if you are a single person who doesn’t want to be hit on, for whatever reason (ie a lone woman traveller in India). But why would you do this unless you had specific reasons? The ring symbolises a lifelong bond… it’s not just a bit of bling which you should shove on without thought. So yes, I think it’s bad luck because it shows a somewhat casual attitude to what wedding rings represent. Sorry guys, that’s just my two cents.
Post # 15
DH wore his for a full year before we got married. If there’s any truth to this old superstition, I’d say we’re screwed hahaha!