Post # 1
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Busy bee
Is it bad if we don’t give our parents gifts at our wedding/rehearsal? We do not have bridesmaids nor groomsmen, ushers, etc. We do have a flower girl and a ring bearer and plan to give each of them a gift on rehearsal night (a toy) but that is it as far as gifts go. I definitely don’t think our parents expect anything but when I read other posts about gifts for POB and POG, I start to wonder.
We are going to get all of our wedding photos digitally so I’m planning to make both sets of parents a coffee table book from Snapfish, out of the photos. And we will be giving them some photo prints, as well. But these will all be after the wedding naturally.
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
No it’s not bad to skip them. If you want to give something, the pictures afterward should be fine.
Post # 4
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Busy bee
P.S. My parents are paying for the majority of the wedding and his parents are paying for the Rehearsal Dinner and morning-after brunch. We are paying for invitations, gown, suit, rings and honeymoon.
Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
If your parents are paying, I think that you should give them something. It doesn’t have to be an expensive gift. Just something heartfelt and meaningful.
Post # 6
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Honey bee
Well my parents are helping a lot with the wedding so I feel its necessary for me to get a gift of thanks. I’m not getting anything expensive, just something meaningful to show my appreciation. When we get our photo’s we’ll put them in a frame for our parents as well. I don’t think you HAVE to get them a gift. Maybe just a letter would be nice.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
I think that the photo albums are a great gift! But you may want to give them something at the rehearsal dinner just to show your thanks and appreciaton. It doesnt have to be big, but since they wont get the photo albums for a few weeks it might be nice to give them something to show them your gratitude while the wedding is going on.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
I’m gifting MOB and MOG beautiful frames with the intention to give them a beautiful photo of us to put in the frame, so it’s not that the gift has to be BIG.
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
Personally, I dont think its “necessary” to gift parents, esp since you are giving them a nice photo later ( i think thats what parents really want anyway) while it isw= nice if you have the extra $$, but if you don’t, your parents won’t be upset b/c they didn’t get anything.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
My parents are getting pictures. We def did not have the extra money to gift our parents during the wedding festivities.
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
Just my personal two cents, I’d give them something, even if it’s small and didn’t cost you anything. There are so many DIY options out there, and I think they’d really appreciate it.
Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
maybe you could just write them a nice thank you note saying that the photo album is coming, because they are paying for things so i think it would be nice if they did get a gift, but it makes sense to why they can’t have it now.
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
Can you buy the empty photo album in advance? That’s what my Fiance & I are doing, I’m probably going to get the “Our Children’s Wedding” type photo albums & a card that says we’ll fill it with pics after the wedding.
Post # 14
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Honey bee
For me, it’s important that I give them something before the wedding. My parents have done SO much for me and my brother, and a token of that is symbolic of how much I appreciate everything they’ve done. Even a thank you note would be nice.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
Thanks for all of the good advice, bees! I’m thinking that we will give them something for all that they have done – both sets. We are having a Destination Wedding so perhaps a nice, coffee table book on the destination city (it’s historic, beautiful, etc.) would work. We could write a nice thank-you/inscription in the inside cover and they could have the books for keepsakes. And of course, we’ll give them the pictures, etc. later as mentioned previously.
Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
If they are paying I think they should get a gift. I am getting mom a pashmina, and probably gifting them a gift certificate to a nice restaurant at home and/or a stay out for the weekend (that’s what I am hoping for)…
