(Closed) Is it bad that I dont care that much…

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It sounds like you’re no longer in fantasy land and in reality now… which is an EXCELLENT thing since a lot of brides will have unrealistic expectations. I think society and media puts weddings in that light; frankly having a great marriage is more important than a dream day.

Post # 4
Member
6360 posts
Bee Keeper

I have NEVER cared that much.

I don’t have a dream day, I have a dream life.

Post # 5
Member
304 posts
Helper bee

No it’s perfectly fine to not care.. There are some women who have dreamed about their wedding day for years and years. I have never done that. I am perfectly happy to go to the court house and then go on a fabulous honeymoon. If you do decide to have a wedding, just make sure it’s what you want and your vision is realized.  Good Luck!

Post # 6
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Newbee

This is totally normal! Honestly, the most important part of your wedding should be the marriage. If your parents are planning a lot of it, as long as the party reflects you and your Fiance you’re fine. Just don’t let them do anything you don’t want them to do. It doesn’t matter who thought it up- it matters if they at least ask what you like, even if you’re not at the forefront of the planning.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

yeappp.. i am at that point too.. i think is normal.. it is def ok to not care about the little details.. cause in the end what matters is who you marry 🙂

Post # 9
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619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@lstyle25:  Agreed! (at that point now myself)

Post # 10
Member
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

My SIL was the same way. Everytime I asked her what this was going to be, and what that was going to look like, she just said, “Oh, I don’t care. Whatever you want to do.” At times it was frustrating because I didn’t want to be responsible for not making her dream wedding, but finally I realized to her it was what is after the wedding that mattered. It was kind of like the wedding was just a formality and somthingto get over with haha

Post # 11
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

No, you have realized what is important to you. I agree with you because I personally dont care either. My Fiance is more involved than I am. If he asked me to do something I will but I could care less. I am in a small group who never had thoughts of a wedding as a little girl it never cross my mind.

So for me it is whatever lets just get this shit over with. hahaha It might sound bad but with me I dont like an audience, nor do I like to be on display, I am dreading it . I love my Fiance and having a wedding means the world to him and I am going through all of this for him.

If I could marry him with a pastor with no one there I would be happy because I cant imagine my life without him. This wedding stuff is so frustrating.

Post # 12
Member
1544 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was just going to post this same thing…

I don’t really have a dream day… I just want it overwith. I am so mad at myself for not eloping years ago.

i have under 6 months left and SOOOOO much left to do. And I really can’t care about any of it. It’ll all work out somehow so w/e. Its just nothing but a hassle.People are trying to make me nervous about all i should have done months ago and I’m just like -yea thats okay – it’ll be fine. no biggie. But I’m the only one doing any of it so its not like i have my family or friends thatll pick for me. If i don’t do it – it won’t get done. And i HATE doing it, i don’t want to do it, so i don’t. I wish someone would just do it for me but its not like i can afford a planner.

I honestly just want the wife status – stick the ring on our fingers and lets get it over with. Why sit around worrying about what type of flower is where. i just don’t get it.

Post # 13
Member
866 posts
Busy bee

“I have NEVER cared that much.

I don’t have a dream day, I have a dream life.”

Love this comment!

Post # 14
Member
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think most everyone gets there at some point. It’s healthy! As long as you don’t let any big choices be pushed on you that you will regret (like changing your theme or something), I think you willl appreciate the help when you look back.

Post # 15
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2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yup I’m in the same boat. I don’t really give a shit about the wedding. I just want to marry my best friend and have a fun day with my family. 

Do whatever you want to do, enjoy your day, dont get tied up in all the bs that surrounds a wedding. 

Post # 16
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@DancingDiva:  I’m sure it will all turn out beautifully .  We all go through that dreaming of our “perfect” wedding but in all reality perfect isn’t feasable.  If your parents are paying and willing to help you plan i say go for it unless they push your boundaries cause some of us dont have that kind of help 🙁

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