Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
So going off my last post, is it bad I kinda am realizing I want to move back home?
I mean don’t get me wrong, I really like having my own place but moving home would mean DH could work and I could stay home with the girls for a little while. We could pay off all of our debt, maybe save up for a house, we wouldn’t be so tight on money, and I wouldn’t be so stressed.
Anyone else live at home? The only cons is we wouldn’t have our own space and my parents can sometimes be a little overbearing.
I don’t know, just a thought.
Post # 3
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Honey bee
- Wedding: November 2019 - Canada
To me, overbearing parents AND no separate space is a deal-breaker. I don’t care how much money I could save, it would affect our relationship negative way and I’d rather be happy and on a budget than miserable and debt free. But that’s just me!
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
@figgnewton: Well, we certainly never wanted to live with my mom but when we lost our home to a major flood in April we didn’t have many options. We have been here about 2 months now, it’s not awful. We are saving a ton of money and my mom mom works frequently (we are on a hiatus currently). Her house is big enough that we don’t cramp each other and she stays out of our way for the most part. She also always unloads and reloads the dishwasher AND goes grocery shopping twice a week. There is a constant supply of free food. Plus, she has a cleaning lady. Pretty sweet, lol. Don’t get me wrong she is totally annoying some times (most times) but it’s just something I’ve learned to deal with. There are certainly worse places to live!
Fiance locked himself downstairs for about the 1st week. Slept down in the basement, worked on his computer down there, everything. Eventually, he realized we were gonna be here a while so he better get used to it! Now we all interact together well. I usually make dinner for all of us and he does manly projects (chain sawing down trees and sledge hammering) for my mom which she REALLY loves!
My mother is extremely overbearing as well, but anything can be done for a limited time. Just think of the money you would be saving! Even for 6 months. That is a solid chunk of change. You can do it. I say go for it.
Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
It’s not Bad to want to move back home but it’s not my idea of what marriage is about. To me, marriage is establishing and maintaining our own home, making a life for our family apart from my parents.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
We are actually doing that right now. My husband got a job transfer back to our home state, so we are moving in with family there. It is going to help us pay all our debt off and save big time! It is so worth it. And, I will have help with the kids. It is nice. Honestly, you know your family and if you could live with them. It is all up to you!
Post # 7
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Busy bee
@figgnewton: Fiance and I have lived on our own the past 5 years, but it’s been a struggle the last three since I’ve been in grad school and my internship/practicum hours did not allow me to work full-time.
We’ve contemplated SEVERAL times moving back in with my family – but that would be moving back with my mom and my grandparents and my brother when he’s home. My grandparents HATE each other – so it’s really not a healthy environment. Plus, there’s just not really much room. Way too many people for a small house and there would be no privacy.
I don’t think we would have the sanity we do now. Sure, we’d have savings, but not sanity. Luckily, I’m done with grad school and I start work in the fall- can’t wait to have a decent income!
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
I LOVED living with my parents, because we are super close and they are far from overbearing. I was more than happy to move back in after university, and my mom was so happy to have me back (she is going to HATE being an empty nester). We got along great. However, I couldn’t imagine living there with Fiance. Maaaaybe if we had kids and we were in a real tight spot, but it wouldn’t be easy. And I could never ever ever live with his parents.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
Omg I could never live with my parents OR my Mother-In-Law. *shudder*
Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
If we move back to California, we may have to move into either his parents or my mom’s house for awhile. California is so expensive!
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
It would never work. My mom and I would kill each other after a week.
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
what does your husband think about that? No way we would never do it unless we had no other option. we lived with his parents for a few months when we graduated from college/before we were engaged. while it was nice of them to let us do so since we were just starting out in our jobs, i wouldnt want to do it again
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
I’ve thought about it for us before, but in the end, unless we were financially desperate, it wouldn’t come to fruition. I’d LOVE to save the money, but my mom’s house is quite small and would feel pretty cramped. Though I’d love to in order to keep my mom company. My FMIL’s house would be big enough but I couldn’t handle living with her. She’s awesome, don’t get me wrong, but she’s definitely overbearing at times.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
I did this for a while, and while it WAS under rather extreme circumstances, I still feel confident saying NEVER AGAIN. Unless we’re homeless. Moving in with your parents, probably the person who would suffer would be your husband. And don’t underestimate the hit it will take on your intimacy.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
My Fiance and I get along great with my parents. I have wished countless times that it was feasible to move back home, because it would allow Fiance and I to save so much money toward the wedding and a home of our own. But, my parents live 6 hours away from where Fiance and I have established ourselves, and I don’t believe either of us would be able to find jobs with pay comparable to what we have now. It’s really too bad, because we’d have an entire floor to ourselves at my parents’ house, and I love my hometown, and like I said, MONEY.
Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
@figgnewton: I live at home. It’s just DH and I here though.
It takes a while, but it might help if you start considering where you currently are home. I’ll have to look at your last post.