Post # 1
I’m planning on getting my hair and makeup done professionally for the wedding. I’m also planning on paying for all the bridesmaids makeup and then asking them if they can just do their own hair or pay for it themselves if they want it done professionally. I don’t mind how they do their hair – it’ll probably just be everyone with hair down to make it easier and uniform. What’s the etiquette on this?…I kind of feel like if I’m getting mine done I should get everyone’s done but it’s just so expensive!
Post # 2
I thought the bride was to arrange for the stylist to do her bridesmaids as well. How many do you have? Usually the hairdresser gives a nice discount.
Post # 3
I didn’t pay for my Bridesmaid or Best Man hair or make up. I made an appointment for anyone who was interested in one. I also wasn’t super concerned with either so it wouldn’t have bothered me if they didn’t have it done, and A couple didn’t!!
Post # 4
If it really is not financially feasible to pay for them I think there is nothing wrong with asking them to do their own hair – especially if you are not fussed how they do it and are happy for them to wear it down. I don’t think there is any ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ when it comes to this, although I do think it is rude when brides insist that bridesmaids have their hair styled and they have to pay for it themselves.
Post # 5
I did the same… Paid for all makeup and had mobile hair on site for BMs to opt in if they’d like. I wasn’t specific about styles. 7 of 8 opted for pro hair, one did her own.
Post # 6
I dont think it will be a big deal though. Alot of ppl prefer going to their own hairdresser.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2015 - Southern Plantation House
It is only cheap not to pay for your bridesmaid’s hair if you are requiring them to get their hair done professionally. If it is an option for them, it is not cheap of you to ask them to pay.
For my wedding, I asked a close (and talented) family friend to come and help my bridesmaid’s with their hair while I was getting my hair and makeup done. Maybe you could do something similar?
Post # 8
It’s fine! You only should pay if you are telling them they HAVE to get their hair done.
Post # 9
as long as you arent requiring professional hair you dont have to pay for theirs! if they choose it, while not required, its their responsibility
Post # 10
Totally seconding @slinktobee. I’ll be miffed if the bride asked me to do a very specific hair do that have to be professionally done and we need to pay ourself. But your request is totally fine and reasonable, so don’t worry about it.
Post # 11
Agree – if you asked for an exact style or insisted on getting it professionally done, then you’re cheap for not paying. If your bridesmaid wants it professionally done (one of mine did originally) without you requesting it, that’s her problem. If you don’t care what their heads look like, then it’s not cheap either. We all did our own hair in the end – I really am cheap and didn’t even get my own done.
Post # 12
You are ok on this one, etiquette wise! You would only have to pay for hair or makeup if you are requiring them to have it.
Saying they have the option to have their hair done professionally and pay for it, or do it themselves, is ok.
Post # 13
I didn’t pay for Bridesmaid or Best Man hair or make-up, although I debated paying for their hair.
I did my own make-up, and had them all as well (I only had 2), but did advise that if they wanted to go somewhere to get it done, they certaonly could.
The stylist I normaly go to owns the salon, and opened up just for us. It was her and another one of her stylists doing our hair (and my MILs). The prices were very good compared to what other salons were charging, so I knew they weren’t going to pay a ton of money.
I did ask before I scheduled the appointments that morning, just in case they wanted to do their own(like my mom, she declined my offer as she is more comfortable doing her short hair).
Post # 14
I’ve been in 4 weddings and I’ve always paid for my own hair.
Post # 15
Cheap? no! Im not paying for their hair or make up. It is their choice if they want to do it or not. If you are making them do their hair then yes maybe you should pay or at least chip in!