(Closed) Is it common courtesy to ask future SIL (sister in law) to be a bridesmaid?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 121
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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Kamazing:  I did.  Helps the bonding/meshing.

Post # 122
32 posts
  • Wedding: June 2018

I wasn’t asked to be a bridesmaid for my future sister-in-law’s wedding. No, you are not obligated to have them in your wedding, but it did cause some hurt feelings when she asked my fiance’s ex girlfriend to be her bridesmaid because they are closer than me and my sister-in-law are. Just to clarify, I am engaged to her brother and she is getting married, she’s not getting married to my brother but I’m her future sister-in-law none the less.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 5 months ago by  deathdouspart.
Post # 123
5 posts
  • Wedding: September 2015

I do not believe you *have* to, but I think it’s the right thing to do. I think it’s a classy gesture and can help you get to know her better! Also, I think it’s a good way to show your fiance that you’re committed to his family as much as your own. For our wedding, my Fiance asked my brother to stand on his side and I included his sister on mine. It was wonderful to have our siblings standing next to us on our special day and I think it meant a lot to both of them. I wouldn’t have it any other way. 

Post # 124
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Nashville, TN

Do it if you want to. I picked my 2 FSILs and his cousin because I want that bond with them. I think it’s special and they did too!!

Post # 125
1 posts

Trust me, avoid hurting someone like I got hurt and just ask all of them to be in the wedding.  And not in some cop out way like handing out programs.

Post # 126
1258 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I didnʻt the first time around and Iʻm not doing it this time around. 

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