is it common to skip first dance?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
9863 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’ve only been to one wedding that had no first dance and that’s because they didn’t have any dancing. Every other wedding I’ve been to had a first dance. I don’t think it’s very common to skip but that doesn’t mean you can’t if you don’t want to.

Post # 4
1727 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

It’s your wedding, you don’t have to dance if you don’t want to.  I wanted to skip it,  but Dh bought up dancing a couple times and when he brought stuff up more than once, i knew he wanted it.  We did dancing to make Dh happy,  but it was still fun and we picked our dance together.  Couldn’t find any romantic songs we both liked,  so we ended up with the Jurassic Park theme.  My only regret is that Dh wanted his brother to come in in a trex costume and I said no. Looking back,  it would have been really funny. 

Post # 5
471 posts
Helper bee

We didn’t skip, but we were only alone for maybe 30 seconds before the DJ invited everyone to join us. 

Post # 7
1243 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t intend on doing a first dance. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. It’s a day to celebrate you and your Darling Husband, not to entertain others (other than that you want them to have a good time). I don’t like the idea of feeling like you need to put on a show and dance (literally). 

I see it as a big party to celebrate us getting married so I intend to treat the reception as a party (with dads speeches but I think that’s about it).

Post # 8
6674 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I think the primary reason couples do a first dance is A) the romance, and B) other couples don’t get the message that it’s okay to get out on the dance floor until the married couple “opens” it up. So you can skip the first dance, but you will have to find some other way of letting people know the dance floor is opem – if you have a dance floor.

Post # 9
9034 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I wish more couples would. All the dances are the most boring part of the reception for me. 

We didn’t do first dances and no one needed some formal gesture to know they could get up and dance on the dance floor.

Post # 10
1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

It’s tour wedding if you want to skip a first dance skip it you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Who cares if it’s common or not

Post # 11
3261 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

While it’s not common it’s certainly not unheard of. 

Post # 12
3530 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Darling Husband and I did our first dance privately outside while the guests were inside at cocktail hour. So we got the dance in but didn’t put ourselves on display for it.

Post # 13
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

“Dance” is a big word for what some couples do as their first dance as a married couple. It is just a tradition, and most of the guests like it. It isn’t a law, so you can make up your own mind. 

It is not like your guy has to replicate the John Travolta solo from Saturday Night Fever, he just has to stand with you on the dance floor and sway a little for a minute or so, then you can have the MC invite all to take the floor with you. 

If even that is too much, then no you don’t have to have a first dance.

Post # 14
936 posts
Busy bee

I don’t think I would notice if someone skipped the first dance.  If people do notice, who cares?  I can’t tell you anything about any of the first dances that I’ve ever seen at a wedding lol.  Do what makes you happy 🙂

Post # 15
624 posts
Busy bee

Ive never seen anyone skip it but I think it’s completely fine to do so! If you think about it a “first dance” is only tradition and has no bearing on actual life. I have been together with Fiance for 4 years and honestly have no idea if we’ve ever slow danced together, I don’t think we have, so having a “first dance as a married couple” wouldn’t be a priority for me. (Not having a reception so not an issue for me) 

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