Is it crazy to get pregnant in quarantine?

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Personally I would wait unless you have pressure from age (like 35+) or infertility. It’s not a great time to be purposely needing medical attention. 

We are TTC but we are older (37.5, 47) so we can’t really wait. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

My husband and I are postponing our plans to TTC. We were planning on starting in July but we’ll probably end up pushing it back at least a bit. There are too many unknowns about this virus and pregnancy. Also, this just is not an environment I would choose to be pregnant in.

Everyone is different and I know people who are pushing ahead with their TTC plans. But personally, purposefully getting pregnant right now is not something I’d be comfortable with.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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jackiebee :  I’m not gonna lie – I see people TTC right now and my immediate thought is – are you nuts?! I have two kids and I am overwhelmed with fear and guilt about raising them in this current climate. I also want to avoid doctors offices and hospitals at all possible costs right now, and we don’t know if there are any possible long term issues that could be caused by being exposed to covid19 in the womb or as an infant etc. I would wait. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

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carolinabelle :  

I feel exactly the same way but I don’t post my thoughts about it unless the op is asking for them.  And since she did….

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I’m 8 weeks pregnant right now with my second, I’m actually finding a lot of positives about being pregnant during isolation, especially with working from home. However it has made it difficult to access prenatal care.

I found my first pregnancy stressful enough without all this to contend with, I would have been beyond stress dealing with Covid-19 at the same time. I would not recommend ttc to anyone unless there were extenuating circumstances, especially for potential first time parents.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

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jackiebee :  I completely understand baby fever but even the few things you’ve mentioned here are serious safety issues.  I don’t think it’s safe and I wouldn’t do it personally. 

This was discussed recently on the thread I’m linking below.  I shared the specifics of my thoughts there.  Many other opinions there as well.

https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/disagreement-over-ttc/

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

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jackiebee :  “I won’t be able to do the C-section I’ve always wanted” 

I’m not sure I understand; can women choose to have a C-section, or is it a solely a doctor’s decision based on specific criterion?

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

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claroquesi :  depends on region, insurance program and budget.  In the US many docs are granting elective c-sections due to mixed research about fewer complications for the baby.  But a woman can find a way to get it done no matter where she lives if she can afford to pay out of pocket.  Many do.  I wouldn’t want to.😬

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I had a baby 6 months ago and would be afraid to TTC under the current circumstances.  You’d have to leave your house to go to appointments and there really isn’t enough research to understand how the coronaviris might impact pregnancy.  You never know what your pregnancy and delivery will be like.  I know women with no preexisting conditions to end up being diagnosed with preclampsia or other serious conditions.  Quite frankly, I didn’t have an ideal delivery and needed medical intervention.  I fear for the outcome had the hospital been understaffed and overrun with coronaviris patients.  The reality is you don’t have a crystal ball to foresee if you will have problems and you have to decide if it’s worth the risk for you.  Personally. I would’t.  Also, I don’t think they do elective C-sections anymore but I could be mistaken.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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jackiebee :  I mean for me, yes it’s crazy. But there’s plenty of people doing it. It’s obviously a very personal choice and everyone is different. I had extreme anxiety during my pregnancies and my friends who are currently pregnant are not getting their regular prenatal care because doctors are extending the time between appointments, which would have just been awful for me. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I’m 9 months pregnant and I would only ttc if it were because of age or infertility. 

Being pregnant during all of this is scary. I haven’t stepped foot in a public place (other than my dr office) since March 17. My husband is still working and we constantly have to worry he could get sick or get me sick and then we’d need to be quarantined from our own baby. I’m worried that rules will change at our hospital and my one support person (my husband) wouldn’t be allowed at the birth and I’d have to labor alone. My husband is not even allowed at any doctors appointments. I did my 36 week ultrasound alone. I can’t imagine how new moms must feel doing their first ultrasound without the dad present. 

We don’t know how long this is going to last so I would wait a few months and see. The other really scary thing and honestly what scares me a lot now is self quarantining after the baby is born. I asked my doctor how long my husband and I should stay at home once we bring our baby home. She said basically indefinitely. My husband has been cleared to work from home for 1 month but he’ll probably have to go back after that. I’m really stressed about how in the world we are going to get groceries for 1-2+months.Instacart is super crazy busy and I still haven’t been able to get basics like toilet paper, Kleenex or rice. 

One of the worst things too is that our baby won’t get to meet his grandparents or any family/friends. Again, my dr said that as of now, we aren’t to let anyone visit the baby. It might be 3+ months before our parents even get to meet their first grandchild.

 

Im not trying to scare you but honestly this sistuation is super stressful and has put a LOT of pressure on me and my husband. We aren’t letting it ruin us having a baby but let me tell you, it’s very easy to have days when you’re just upset on why this is happening now. I would never want someone to go through this. 

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