- 2 years ago
- Wedding: September 2020
I don’t think it’s crazy. Not sure there’s a clear answer.
I don’t think it’s crazy. Not sure there’s a clear answer.
With everyone quarantined, I have a feeling there’s going to be a baby boom in nine months to a year anyway. Most women don’t need much, if any, medical care for a pregnancy for the first three months, and even then, not much unless they’re high risk. But no one really knows whether they will be high risk or not until it happens. I certainly wouldn’t want to put myself into a situation of needing medical care for a while; doctors and hospitals are already stretched pretty thin.
It sounds like a terrible idea honestly. There are so many things that could go wrong, and medical care for standard things like pregnancy just isn’t the same right now. I definitely wouldn’t choose to need medical care with a pandemic going on. So yes, I think the idea is crazy, and you should just give it a few months and then reassess.
If you are only 30 I would wait a couple of months to see how things progress. I am currently 15 weeks pregnant and luckily my area not to badly effected but I haven’t left the house except to walk the dog in weeks.
I am hoping that the worst will be over before I am due so my parents are able to meet their first grandchild. However I understand people who can’t wait due to age as I would have been one of them.
DH and I had a conversation about holding off until things seemed to be moving in a better direction. We’d been trying for a while and my test date came up so I tested, expecting to get a BFN like I had been the past several months but nope, BFP stared back at me. I’m almost 9 weeks along now. It’s not ideal but we’ll get through it. We’ve been trying for a while after having a miscarriage last year and I can’t help but be happy about this new pregnancy. Shit timing, no question, but for us it’s a bright spot during an incredibly dark time.
I’m 29 weeks pregnant, and as others have said… Unless I couldn’t wait due to age or we were dealing with infertility (which, if I wasn’t pregnant, this would be our 1 year point), I would definitely not start trying now. Appointments are switching to telemedicine calls, people aren’t allowed to come with you for appointments or ultrasounds, and last I talked to my midwife, my hospital had the policy that they would immediately separate the baby from me as soon as I give birth if I tested positive for COVID-19. Now, the WHO and CDC both changed their guidelines since that appointment a week and a half ago, so I’ll talk to my midwife again in another week and a half… But I’m deathly afraid of getting sick and having complications.
If it’s not of interest to you, I totally get it, but I know so would’ve appreciated it if I were situation. You may want to give it a listen unless you think it would cause you anxiety.
Yes, it’s crazy. There will be a vaccine available sometime in 2021 so just wait – and make sure you have birth control that works until then.
While things can always go sideways when you’re pregnant, consider that if you have complications and need to spend a week or two months in the antepartum wing before birth, it’s possible depending on where you live that NO ONE will be able to visit you. For weeks or even months. Depending on where you live, you might have to give birth alone. Possibly even without your husband there.
All those doctors appointments. Each its own chance for you to contract COVID-19. A NICU baby died of COVID-19 complications last week in the US.
Not to mention, we are going to be in one hell of a recession by the time we reopen society. Not many jobs are 110% secure right now.
I am due in June, and work in an ER. Right now is a very scary time. I fear this going on too long and family not getting to meet our baby as a newborn or even the first year
Unfortunately no one knows how long this will last. This is my last pregnancy and wanted to enjoy it, but that is not the case. Pure fear is all I have. So that being said, I would wait to ttc til the end is in sight so to speak. For the sake of your health and future baby
This thread made me think…if this crisis had happened before I got pregnant (currently 28 weeks) would my husband and I have delayed? And I don’t know. I’m in my 20s but it took me over a year and a miscarriage to conceive my healthy, growing son.
Nobody knows the future. Anybody who can say they could have predicted this before reports of Wuhan started coming out is a liar. So who knows if it’ll be even worse to get pregnant next year? There could be another crisis… there could be a personal/ family crisis. We really don’t know the future.
I don’t think there’s a right or wrong decision. It’s not always possible to plan life so that important events only happen under perfect conditions. I know that I am very happy to be pregnant. I am staying informed but not allowing myself to be anxious. I am taking all COVID related changes in stride… even the less savory ones like not knowing when my extended family will even meet my son.
I am thankful for the ability to stay home in my 3rd trimester and do telehealth appointments. I am thankful for quality healthcare. And I am especially thankful to have had an easy pregnancy with no complications. Which isn’t guaranteed to anyone. And maybe if I was high risk I’d have a different POV.
Td;lr: I don’t know if it’s “crazy.” I guess it’s just whatever feels right.
My husband and I have been unsuccessfully TTC for the past year, so right now we are pretty grateful to not be pregnant. We aren’t actively TTC right now, but not preventing it either. I think if it does happen, we’d be pretty shocked after so many months of negative tests. Before this pandemic, we were in the process of doing tests at a fertility clinic and now that’s on hold. On the flip side, my sister is pregnant and is being induced next week. She will be going through the first stages of labour at home to avoid being in the hospital too long and she is only allowed one support person. There are even some hospitals that are banning all support people and women have to give birth alone. My sister will have to isolate the baby for a while and people will miss the first few months of the baby’s life and it’s been difficult to get supplies for the baby, because of closed stores and long delays with ordering things online.
What’s your husband think? I think THAT is one of the most important factors here. Do you both want to weather this storm together? If he’s hesitant as well, I think that’s a clear answer.
We can tell you it’s crazy or not, but I don’t believe it’s that simple. Pregnancies are scary when there’s not a pandemic going on, so the added factor is obviously that much worse. My initial thought was, “Why not go for it?” But after reading responses here, I’m not sure. You’re in a tough spot, OP and I feel for you.