Is it crazy to get pregnant in quarantine?

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Post # 76
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Busy bee
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dianaj17 :  I agree, for me we’ve been TTC for 7 months. I’m not stopping now. Even if we got pregnant this cycle, I won’t give birth until likely January. Hopefully there’s better understanding, control, and testing at the time. Either way, I don’t feel like judging someone for wanting to start a family is appropriate. We can’t put our life on hold for this….and for how long? 

Post # 77
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Helper bee
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beecause :  Thanks so much for sharing this perspective. I got pregnant in February before the pandemic got bad, after over a year of trying and fertility interventions, and I’m 35. Many things about this pregnancy and birth experience are not going to be what I planned, but I am still SO grateful to be pregnant, and would be continuing to try if I wasn’t. 

I’m already getting reduced antenatal care, and the idea of my partner being unable to attend the birth, being separated from my baby after birth, of my parents and in-laws not being able to meet the baby right away, or even having to wear a mask during labour all sound terrible. On the other hand, pregnancy and child birth are short-term things and a child is forever. I’d so much rather have this potentially non-ideal experience and get to become a mother and make my parents grandparents while they’re alive and healthy than the alternative. 

If I was younger with no fertility issues this would be a different calculation. I’m also lucky to live somewhere where I do have the option of giving birth safely at home with a professional midwife if my pregnancy is low-risk, and staying away from hospitals altogether. It’s such a personal choice. 

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SeaOfLove :  I have zero warm and fuzzies about giving birth through this. And I will murder anyone who tries to take my baby from me. 

So far, our hospital is still letting one support person, but they are separating babies with positive COVID-19 mothers. No laughing gas or epidurals at this time. 

I’m thinking of laboring as long as possible at home, going to my closest hospital (2 miles but not L&D specific), giving birth there and leaving ASAP. They’ve had no cases in that hospital and it would allow me to be practically crowning before we get there. 

I’m 24 weeks now, so hopefully this baby stays put until 40 weeks (unlike my son) and we have a better situation later in the year. 

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MsPlucky :  Your hospital isn’t providing any pain relief options? What’s their rationale for that? 

I am 30 weeks and thankfully (so far) everything has remained the same at the hospital where I will give birth except the fact that I’m only allowed one support person. 

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Buzzing bee
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MsPlucky :  whoa, I totally get no nitrous (particles), but how on earth can they get away with no epidurals? I’m open to the idea of trying without one, but it’s pretty barbaric to tell women “hey sorry, doesn’t matter if you’re on day 2 of a pitocin induction, no real pain relief for you!”

Post # 81
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Newbee

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dianaj17 :  I gave birth 3 weeks ago and was denied pain relief. I always planned on getting an epidural and was afraid to go through labor without one. Contractions were super intense from the start and quickly were back to back with no time to recover. I got to the hospital and was told the anesthesiologist was overburdened with corona patients and the chance of an epidural was next to none. Even morphine and gas were not an option because apparently he or she needed to give approval first. I was terrified and in horrendous pain. I was begging for anything at that point. Thankfully my labor went relatively quickly and my baby was only 6 lbs. Still, I was pretty traumatized for the first couple weeks and am only now able to sort of process it. 

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Buzzing bee
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greensea :  whoa, that’s intense. Are you in an area that is hard hit? Is it a big or small hospital? 

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Sugar bee

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dianaj17 :  Can’t spare the anesthesiologist, and an OB can’t do it. So, they are telling women to prepare for birth without assistance. If they have the medicine to spare or the anesthesiologist to spare – hopefully everyone gets lucky – then I guess women can get it. But it’s not a given with the current crisis. 

Post # 84
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Busy bee

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MsPlucky :  Where are you located? I’m in a major city in the midwest, USA and it is business as usual at the hospital I work at except for laboring mom’s get one visitor that is screened before being let in (includes father of the baby) and Mom is tested for covid when they are admitted for labor. 

Post # 85
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Newbee

It seems like it just depends where you are for delivery. My best friend gave birth 3 days ago, and they had her DH wait in the car for about 4 hours until their COVID tests came clean. That part sucked, and she had to wear a mask for that part. Then she was given a room and her epidural, allowed to remove her mask and he was allowed to come in and all was good, he just couldn’t leave for any reason. They did state that if mom tested postive, baby would be seperated, thankfully this was not a problem. But in her case, it didn’t make sense to wait until the last minute to go in because her DH might have missed the birth waiting for the COVID test to come back.

Post # 86
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m 27 weeks pregnant at the moment and actually don’t mind being pregnant during a pandemic at all – we had 3 early losses so I’m obviously just over the moon to be as far as I am now. I’m not an essential worker and am able to work from home so I love being able to wear sweatpants and take a nap when I need to!! Definitely a silver lining for my third trimester!! I live in NYC but was concerned about the hospital situation so (after appropriate and careful quarantining) have moved in with my parents in a nearby state in a much less affected area where I will stay until after birth. I am sure the birth will be tough but the hospitals have assured us about all the precautions they’re taking so I’m not stressing about since I can’t control things anyway! So while I wouldn’t start fertility treatments during the pandemic, I’d say if you’re relatively healthy and don’t forsee any reasons for pregnancy complications I would absolutely carry on ttc. I’m so excited about baby that I find it such a welcome relief among news all day long! 

Post # 87
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Worker bee

I posted this in a different thread but I’m going to post it here as well to give my prespective as someone who is currently 19 weeks pregnant.

I am not trying to convince you to do anything at all, but I’d like you to hear an “opposite” side to the story. This is my husband’s and I first child (I think we’re one and done but we’ll see) and I live in the US and am currently furloughed from my job, my husband is able to work from home.

My life really hasn’t changed that much and the new “rules” surrounding pregnant women haven’t impacted me and depending on your personality they might not impact you as well.

I only wanted my husband in the delivery room so I don’t care that only one person is allowed. My ob assured me that this will not change. My husband will be allowed when I give birth.

My husband isn’t allowed at my appointments which does suck BUT we were still able to find out the gender together at an elective ultrasound place. That was something I really wanted to experience together and luckily we did.

Family won’t be able to visit after birth. We didn’t want family visiting right afterwards. We wanted some time to bond just as a family. My mom will be moving in with us for three months (after the first month of baby being home) to help. So we’ll still have help but without an onslaught of visitors – most family is a plane ride away so we’d have to host them as well. Now we won’t have to until baby is older. 

I’m making more money on unemployment (with the extra $600 weekly) so we’re able to put more money into savings since I want to take 6-9 months off of work after baby is born. I am cuurently furloughed but I have almost 100% job certainity once the state opens back up so I’m not worried about being unemployed. Also, since my husband is working from home we are spening so much more time together and it’s been wonderful. I feel extra close to him now and I love that I’m getting to experience this pregnancy with him right by my side (literally). 

Not having a baby shower does bum me out a little. My best friend was planning one but I told her not to anymore. Even if everything opens back up before I’m due, it’s not worth the risk to me and everyone else since it’s not like the virus is just disappearing. That being said, I have very excited parents and in-laws and they have pretty much bought us everything we need for baby. 

I can’t go “baby shopping” in store. This is a non-issue for me since I’m a religious online shopper anyway. Even if I was allowed to I would still do the majoirty of my shopping online. I see quite a bit of pregnant women compaining about this but depending on your shopping preferences this might be a non-issue for you like it is for me. 

I’m also not in a heavily impacted state. It’s quite rural where I am. The hospital that I am giving birth at has no covid-19 patients. My feelings might be a bit different if I were in a heavily impacted area but thankfully I am not. 

Again, this is not meant to convince you to have a baby right now at all. I realize how lucky I am to not be impacted (for the most part) and I know everyone’s situation is different. But it’s not all bad being pregnant right now. Just my two cents. 

Post # 88
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dianaj17 :  they can “get away with it” because technically speaking an epidural is an elective procedure for a vaginal birth. Plenty of women give birth every day without one. In addition to not having the resources to provide one, it’s also another person that has to interact with the laboring mother and be a potential source of infection. 

Post # 89
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LilliV :  I’m interested in a pain med free birth myself, but it just seems pretty cruel unless the anesthesiologist is literally physically unable to leave his/her bay of COVID patients. There’s always the chance of not getting pain relief due to them being tied up in surgery or things going too quickly, but denying it for the purpose of preventing another face-to-face interaction (when patient care is their job) seems excessive. 

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Buzzing Beekeeper

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dianaj17 :  I agree that if they have the ability to offer it then it would be preferable, but I think it’s better to give women time to prepare for the reality that it’s unlikely rather than spring it on them in labor. If someone is just planning on a epidural and doesn’t have back-up knowledge of natural pain management techniques that’s going to really suck for them (although every mom planning on an epidural should have other techniques available because epidurals don’t always work – probably half my friends had some sort of epidural complication and didn’t get the relief they expected). 

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