- 1 year ago
- Wedding: July 2015
I’m already getting reduced antenatal care, and the idea of my partner being unable to attend the birth, being separated from my baby after birth, of my parents and in-laws not being able to meet the baby right away, or even having to wear a mask during labour all sound terrible. On the other hand, pregnancy and child birth are short-term things and a child is forever. I’d so much rather have this potentially non-ideal experience and get to become a mother and make my parents grandparents while they’re alive and healthy than the alternative.
If I was younger with no fertility issues this would be a different calculation. I’m also lucky to live somewhere where I do have the option of giving birth safely at home with a professional midwife if my pregnancy is low-risk, and staying away from hospitals altogether. It’s such a personal choice.
So far, our hospital is still letting one support person, but they are separating babies with positive COVID-19 mothers. No laughing gas or epidurals at this time.
I’m thinking of laboring as long as possible at home, going to my closest hospital (2 miles but not L&D specific), giving birth there and leaving ASAP. They’ve had no cases in that hospital and it would allow me to be practically crowning before we get there.
I’m 24 weeks now, so hopefully this baby stays put until 40 weeks (unlike my son) and we have a better situation later in the year.
It seems like it just depends where you are for delivery. My best friend gave birth 3 days ago, and they had her DH wait in the car for about 4 hours until their COVID tests came clean. That part sucked, and she had to wear a mask for that part. Then she was given a room and her epidural, allowed to remove her mask and he was allowed to come in and all was good, he just couldn’t leave for any reason. They did state that if mom tested postive, baby would be seperated, thankfully this was not a problem. But in her case, it didn’t make sense to wait until the last minute to go in because her DH might have missed the birth waiting for the COVID test to come back.
I’m 27 weeks pregnant at the moment and actually don’t mind being pregnant during a pandemic at all – we had 3 early losses so I’m obviously just over the moon to be as far as I am now. I’m not an essential worker and am able to work from home so I love being able to wear sweatpants and take a nap when I need to!! Definitely a silver lining for my third trimester!! I live in NYC but was concerned about the hospital situation so (after appropriate and careful quarantining) have moved in with my parents in a nearby state in a much less affected area where I will stay until after birth. I am sure the birth will be tough but the hospitals have assured us about all the precautions they’re taking so I’m not stressing about since I can’t control things anyway! So while I wouldn’t start fertility treatments during the pandemic, I’d say if you’re relatively healthy and don’t forsee any reasons for pregnancy complications I would absolutely carry on ttc. I’m so excited about baby that I find it such a welcome relief among news all day long!
I posted this in a different thread but I’m going to post it here as well to give my prespective as someone who is currently 19 weeks pregnant.
I am not trying to convince you to do anything at all, but I’d like you to hear an “opposite” side to the story. This is my husband’s and I first child (I think we’re one and done but we’ll see) and I live in the US and am currently furloughed from my job, my husband is able to work from home.
My life really hasn’t changed that much and the new “rules” surrounding pregnant women haven’t impacted me and depending on your personality they might not impact you as well.
I only wanted my husband in the delivery room so I don’t care that only one person is allowed. My ob assured me that this will not change. My husband will be allowed when I give birth.
My husband isn’t allowed at my appointments which does suck BUT we were still able to find out the gender together at an elective ultrasound place. That was something I really wanted to experience together and luckily we did.
Family won’t be able to visit after birth. We didn’t want family visiting right afterwards. We wanted some time to bond just as a family. My mom will be moving in with us for three months (after the first month of baby being home) to help. So we’ll still have help but without an onslaught of visitors – most family is a plane ride away so we’d have to host them as well. Now we won’t have to until baby is older.
I’m making more money on unemployment (with the extra $600 weekly) so we’re able to put more money into savings since I want to take 6-9 months off of work after baby is born. I am cuurently furloughed but I have almost 100% job certainity once the state opens back up so I’m not worried about being unemployed. Also, since my husband is working from home we are spening so much more time together and it’s been wonderful. I feel extra close to him now and I love that I’m getting to experience this pregnancy with him right by my side (literally).
Not having a baby shower does bum me out a little. My best friend was planning one but I told her not to anymore. Even if everything opens back up before I’m due, it’s not worth the risk to me and everyone else since it’s not like the virus is just disappearing. That being said, I have very excited parents and in-laws and they have pretty much bought us everything we need for baby.
I can’t go “baby shopping” in store. This is a non-issue for me since I’m a religious online shopper anyway. Even if I was allowed to I would still do the majoirty of my shopping online. I see quite a bit of pregnant women compaining about this but depending on your shopping preferences this might be a non-issue for you like it is for me.
I’m also not in a heavily impacted state. It’s quite rural where I am. The hospital that I am giving birth at has no covid-19 patients. My feelings might be a bit different if I were in a heavily impacted area but thankfully I am not.
Again, this is not meant to convince you to have a baby right now at all. I realize how lucky I am to not be impacted (for the most part) and I know everyone’s situation is different. But it’s not all bad being pregnant right now. Just my two cents.