Post # 1
I’ll be spending christmas/new years with my catholic inlaws. I’m not catholic but i always attend mass with them, kneel when they kneel and pretty much copy what they do to show willing.
Normal mass is fine but the new years eve mass is a killer. last year the congregation was kneeling for a good 15-20 minutes during some kind of prayer/talk (it’s in spanish so im not altogether sure what it was, but it was different from a normal mass) and it was pretty painful. This year i’ll be 8+ months pregnant and I’m not sure I can manage that again. I can manage for the short parts (arrival of the host etc) but 15+ mins…unlikely. since im already uncomfortable now at 5 months
is that disrespectful or understandable?
Post # 3
I dont think it would be disrespectful, but I’m not religious at all.
Post # 4
Completely understandable. I wouldn’t worry about it at all.
I sometimes have knee issues (injury from high school) and therefore can’t kneel. I just scoot forward in my seat a little bit and bow my head. Therefore I’m still being respectful, which is all that matters. My church down in here in FL doesn’t have kneelers so no one kneels.
Post # 5
Ex Catholic here… there’s actually some debate about this (or at least there was when I was a child) but I think that it would not be disrespectful if you sat while they kneeled. It’d be one thing if you were swinging from the chandeliers or running up and down the pews, but I doubt anyone would find it disrespectful if a pregnant woman sat while everyone else knelt.
Post # 6
I have Catholic friends and married into a Catholic family (dh doesn’t practice it anymore). They have all told me it isn’t necessary for me to kneal, so i don’t.
Post # 7
As long as you’re respectful about it, I don’t see how it would be a problem. I’ve seen parishioners who are not able to kneel just sit in the pews with their heads lowered, to show respect in the same way.
Post # 8
@newname_99: I had a bad knee and was unable to kneel sometimes. I would scoot way forward in the pew and bow my head. No one ever said a thing.
Post # 9
I wasnt raised catholic so i dont exactly know what the “rules” are, so i always kneel for the same reason – fear that ill offend someone. it kills me b/c i will get bad pain in my one knee if i kneel too long (injury from 10+ years ago). I honestly will cheat a bit – when i start to get sore, i will rock back so that my butt is leaning against the seat. it takes the pressure off and i still feel like in not being disrespectful
Post # 10
@newname_99: I’m Catholic and usually everyone kneels except those who are elderly, but I think being pregnant and not kneeling will be fine. I would be really shocked if anyone says anything to you about it, you should be fine!
Post # 11
I’m Lutheran – not Catholic – butwe have similar services and in my church we say “kneel as you are able”. And not everyone is able. Nobody would bat an eye at a pregant lady. No big deal. If there are people directly in the pew behind you, you may want to try to scoot to the front of the seat. But it’ll be fine.
Post # 12
I have some catholic family too and attend events held at their churches occassionaly and I’ve never kneeled or gotten up for communion. Its never been an issue, as long as you are respectful I don’t think its really a big deal.
Post # 13
I promise nobody will be watching you to see what you do. Please don’t kneel if it’s physically uncomfortable. I have (invisible) health problems and sometimes I’m not able to kneel. Nobody says boo.
Post # 14
Just sit when they kneel and bow your head. Some elderly do this because they can’t kneel.
Post # 15
Born and raised Catholic (and attended Catholic school) here! I was always taught that those who are elderly, pregnant, or have a physical disability are not expected to kneel if it is too difficult. I’ve seen pregnant ladies remain seated while the rest of the church kneels and I don’t think anyone would ever think twice about it. I don’t think anyone would take it as a sign of disrespect.
Post # 16
I was raised Catholic. I know quite a few people that get offended when visitors don’t kneel. Some do see it as disrespectful (I’m not sure I have an opinion on it myself). However, its is understood that people should “kneel as they are able”. I’m sure no one will bat an eye at you not kneeling at 8 mos. pregnant.