Post # 1
I am considering filling in my response card to include:
________seats have been reserved in your honour at our wedding
________# of invited guests
Also although I invite a husband and wife….if the husband can’t make it but the wife can….is it rude to tell guests that only the person who the invitation is addressed to is invited?
Please advise —thanks!
Post # 3
nope not rude at all – its rude for the guest to sub in someone else or invite others though.
Post # 4
Having a fill in to let people know the number of seats you are reserving is fine. As for the other thing, personally, I would still give someone a guest even if their spouse couldn’t come (especially if they don’t know a lot of people that will be at your wedding). I feel like I have a neon sign on me sometimes when I go to events like weddings without my husband and I’m sure a lot of people feel the same way and would like less attention to be on them for being alone.
Post # 5
We put “___ seats have been reserved in your honor” on our response cards. I think it’s helpful, not distasteful! That was the best way I could think of to be clear about how many were invited, and it was especially necessary since we didn’t use inner envelopes and didn’t want to have to put “and guest” on the outer envelopes. So the invitations to our single guests are simply addressed to them, then on the response card it says that 2 seats have been reserved for them.
Post # 6
you all make good points. I can see everyone’s point, especially about letting someone who is married bring someone in the place of their husbands…sigh!! Thanks for the feedback…very helpful 🙂
Post # 7
Yeah as other posters said, it’s totally acceptable to fill in the number of guests invited. This is especially important if your guest list is extremely tight. I don’t think very many people will try to bring someone other than who was invited… however as long as they don’t go over your “number of seats reserved” for them, you’d do best to let it slide.
(Bringing someone other than their spouse?? Scandalous!)
Post # 8
Nope, not rude! We put “__number of seats have been reserved in your honor” on the RSVP cards. One thing about this plan is that you have to be very organized with your guestlist spreadsheet so your don’t make any mistakes. Fiance and I were using a double check process and one guest has already let us know that we made a mistake. Oops!
Post # 9
My reply cards say the following
Kinly reply by the fourth of September
_____ seat(s) have been reserved for
And I filled in the number of seats but I left the name blank. We’re paying for the wedding mostly ourselves so I feel like I can dictate how many people come, but I’d feel uncomfortable dicating who they can bring as their guest…
Post # 10
@october: Those are perfect RSVP cards. I love, love, love your wording, and I REALLY appreciate the use of Names instead of M____________
Love them. Really love them.
Post # 11
I hope not thats what i am doing!
Post # 12
okay so i’m glad we are ALL in agreement. I will be filling in the total number guests invited. thank you ladies 🙂
Post # 13
Maybe I am misunderstanding something since my response cards were a bit different. But if you fill in the total amount of seats and that family or couple does not reach their own max, then how do they tell you that they have seats to give up? For example, if you invite a family of 5 and write 5 seats are reserved for them, and it turns out only 3 people can attend, then they no longer have space on your response card to note 3 because you already wrote 5. Does that make sense or do you just hope they all call you and tell you well in advance?
Post # 14
Or you can do “____ of 3” and fill in the total number. So they have the option to have less people show up but not more.
Post # 15
It is not rude to say “___ seats reserved for ___________.”
It is rude to dictate who your guest can bring. If you are already planning on the seat, let your guest bring another “date.” If my FI/DH couldn’t go and I was told I couldn’t bring someone with me – especially if I didn’t know anyone else going – I would decline the invite.
Post # 16
@desert_teacher: for the weddigns i have RSVPed to that my SO couldnt go to it went like this:
_2_ seats have been reserved in your honor