- 6 years ago
My SO and I have been dating for two years. We have great sex all the time; all the time meaning at least once a day, if not more. But I have two things that have been bothering me for a long time…
The first issue I’ll ask about is climaxing. I have NEVER had one. Not with my SO, not with previous guys I’ve dated, and not by myself. The sex that my SO and I have has always been amazing and I love every second of it but I’ve just never been able to “get there”. He’s very supportive because he doesn’t make me feel bad about not having one and he isn’t hard on himself about it either. We’ve tried all sorts of things except for toys… neither of us has done that so I feel like it would be the blind leading the blind. Any suggestions on having an orgasm? A little background on me, I don’t enjoy masturbating so if yall could suggest something other than that please?!
The second thing I wanted to ask about is, how often is normal for a guy to ejaculate in a day? I think it’s pretty awesome that we have sex so much and we’re two years in to our relationship but he STILL masturbates. I ask him why and he just says because he likes to. But if you are having sex with your girlfriend that much, wouldn’t that make you not “need” to masturbate as much? It also bothers me because he looks at porn when he does it. It makes me feel self conscience that he actually wants to look at other women to get off and like I’m not enough for him. I know most guys look at porn just because it gets them hard and gets them started, but why is he even masturbating in the first place when we have sex so often? Or am I just crazy and we should be having sex more? How many times is a normal amount of times to have sex?! AHHH!!!