Post # 1
Our Marriage celebration is approaching soon and we are so excited to see our friends and family come to our town to celebrate our recent marriage that took place in Australia (just the two of us).
We have had an issue with one of our guests (shes a college friend of mine) who has become super flaky. well she finally decided to tell me that she will be coming ( amonth late from our original rsvp), but then asked “someone will be picking me up from the airport right?”
I was totally thrown off. I thought that was rude to ask it in that way, and explained that unfortunately I have to set up and will be doing a practice run during the time she arrives. But then I thought, wow, is it my responsibility to do that? I have at least 10 people coming from out of town. And while I am excited to see them, I didnt really plan to pick up anyone other than my bridesmaid and my family member. I also wondered if they are expecting me to hang out with them the day before the wedding or even after? I would love to, but being that I have 20 family members coming to not only celebrate but also meet my home, it just becomes too difficult to cater to my friends as well. I was planning on having a get together the day before at my house, after the setup and rehearsal, and just tell my friends that they are more than welcome to come. But I dont plan to pick them up, or even hang out for a long time with them, especially the day after (on Sunday).
Is this understood? or am I missing a common etiquette protocol when you have out of town guests? what do people do when faced with this?
Any advice, suggestions and guidance is always appreciated!! 😀
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@skschick: Yikes, I would never expect someone to do that for me, ESPECIALLY right before their wedding.
I’ve heard about DW’s doing lower-priced flights if everyone books on that flight or airline, and if everyone was coming in on ONE flight it might be nice to pick them up and see them, spend an hour, etc. but no, she shouldn’t have expected this.
How is she planning on getting around the rest of the time she’s in the area? At most I would put her in touch with another friend that’s flying in that she could possibly carpool with or give her a local taxi’s phone number.
Post # 4
@skschick: As far as I know, you’re not obligated to provide someone transportation from the airport. You can make it easier by letting her know about shuttle and taxi services. If you live in a remote area, it may be nice to see if SOMEONE (not necessarily you) could help out, but if you’re in a major city, then I wouldn’t worry about it. Transportation should be easily accessible.
Post # 5
You absolutely are not supposed to pick up all your guests from the airport. I think it’s nice if you can have a picnic or something casual the day after the wedding but its certainly not essential 🙂
Post # 6
Is there anyone else that could pick her up? Or a taxi? Or public transportation? Our guests are either being picked up by my parents (they volunteered) or getting a rental car. You can’t submit yourself to being her chauffer, you will be way too busy. Tell her to walk! HA JK or maybe not? 🙂
We decided to do a “welcome” dinner instead of a rehearsal dinner because we wanted to actually spend casual time with our Out of Town guests. I was going to be sad not to spend any quality time with my family (most are OOT), so I decided to include them with dinner. But by no means are you obligated or required to do so. Whatever works for you!
Post # 7
Um, no. I don’t know why she would expect that!!!
Post # 8
She was very rude to expect you would pick her up. She should provide her own transportation. If you want to be nice you could set up something on your wedding website where people could contact each other about rides. But you shouldn’t be doing anything.
As far as spending time with Out of Town guest, I do think it’s a good idea, but not stricly necessary. It also depends on how many guests we’re talking about. They’ve come a long way to see you and it’s nice to have more than 30 seconds in a recieving line. But if you’re having a smaller wedding where you’ll really be able to talk to all your guests that night, then you’re fine. And I think a causal affair the night before is a perfect idea – that’ll give you more time with those that you don’t get to see often.