Post # 1
At first I’d planned for our wedding to be a destination wedding, then a ranch wedding, then elopement, then a lakeside resort in my hometown… all of which didn’t work for lack of participation on my family’s behalf. Now, we’re renting a villa in the caribbean. Sounds great, right? Well, my fiance has decided he ONLY wants my family there. None of his friends or family, and my friends can’t afford the trip. With only my family in a rented villa, it makes a wedding consisting of: me, Fiance, my mom, my grandma, and my sister. This is NOT the dream wedding I’d hoped for. My mom and sister complain about having to go on the trip, and i desperately want my grandma to be there. I just can’t forsee having a “celebration” after the wedding. I had always envisioned drinks and dancing, or (for a villa) a pool party. With nobody else going, this will end up to just be a quick wedding and we all go to sleep afterwards. Any ideas, girls?
Post # 3
Honestly, why keep the Caribbean villa venue if no one can come and the people who can are complaining? If you really want a larger crowd and a party, I’d change the venue to a place that can meet those expectations.
Post # 4
If they’re gonna be miserable, I’d change it again
Post # 5
@lucyduck: Agreed. Don’t try to force something. If people are complaining about being a part of your wedding, just elope or do your small ceremony where they are and then leave them behind so you can enjoy your time together in the caribbean. I’m afraid if you try to go forth with this villa plan you will be disappointed.
Post # 6
@lucyduck: +1. Have the wedding at a place where your friends will be able to attend, or just elope. Why waste money renting a villa when the people who are there are complaining?
Post # 7
I second what everyone else is saying! Why go through with this plan when you’re not happy, your family aren’t happy, and your friends (probably) aren’t happy that they can’t make it? Sure, it might be fun to get married there in a very intimate ceremony, if that’s your style – some people love that kind of thing. You, on the other hand, sound like you want more people around you to celebrate, so do it!
Failing that, maybe have the small wedding in the Carribean combined with a holiday/honeymoon, then have a proper reception a few weeks later with all your friends and family.
Post # 8
Why don’t you do a sweet and simple courthouse ceremony with your closest friends and family, then use that Caribbean villa for your honeymoon with your new husband! Sounds perfect to me!
Post # 9
Can you do something else and cancel the villa?
Sound like no one is really keen on the idea.
Post # 10
Great idea.I was thinking the same thing.
Post # 11
I’m just throwing this out there
I was on Destination Wedding with my niece, and HER GAMA was using a walker, this was like 1 of 10 weddings on the beach in Jamaica that day…. so the place was CRAZY … GAMA was out there on the dance floor with the walker. It’s what you make it. Go to dinner out afterwards … and people will want to celebrate with you all!!!
Post # 12
I don’t understand at all. If no one wants the wedding to be like this than why are you guys having it this way?
Post # 13
5 people is absolutely enough for a great party…, if it’s the right 5 people. “Grandma” usually doesn’t make that cut…she may be fantastic, but life of a party she normally ain’t. I don’t suggest dancing and drinks, or a pool party. I suggest taking in a show. Theater, music… something like that. A sedate family-friendly activity.