(Closed) Is it ever okay to take back a ring (that you hate)?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Is it ever okay to take back a ring that you utterly hate?

    Heck no! He picked it, you stick with it!

    Uh... Yeah! That thing is like, perm.a.nent...

    Only if it breaks

    other.... leave a message :)

  • Post # 32
    492 posts
    Helper bee

    I voted for change yet ONLY if it’s okay with the SO and it won’t hurt his feelings or make him feel bad. I think that’s why it’s good for couples to go ring shopping in my opinion. I’m very picky, not materialistic, but picky. So I was glad to be able to go ring shopping with my SO. It makes things easier. To be honest I was terribly afraid of receiving a ring that I don’t like.

    Post # 33
    5976 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think my husband would have been way too hurt…and I couldn’t do that to him. It’s one thing if he brought it up, but even if it was the worst ring in the world, I don’t know that I could bring myself to hurt his feelings like that. He spent so much time picking out my ring…and I love that he took such care in it.

    Lucky for me, he asked me my opinion beforehand and took my SIL with him. I absolutely love my ring, but I wouldn’t change it if I didn’t like it b/c I don’t think he would be ok with it.

    Post # 35
    68 posts
    Worker bee

    I think it depends on the situation, I personally have never asked to return anything that was a gift from my guy (past or present).  My late husband bought me a bracelet once I wasn’t a fan of, and I kept my mouth shut…even when he asked if I wanted to return it!  I figured he picked it out, and that’s better than pointing and saying ‘Buy me that’ LOL.  FYI, a few months later the bracelet fell off my wrist and I was CRUSHED for 2 days until I found it, unharmed, in our apartment.  I guess I really did love it, and I still have it almost 10 years later!!

    On a similar note, my friend asked her husband VERY SPECIFICALLY for a princess cut solitaire engagement ring in white gold.  He bought her a round diamond with lots of side stones set in platinum, which must have cost him a small fortune!!  She loved it, and never said a word, but it wasn’t even close to what she wanted and I think if given the choice she would probably have taken the solitaire. 

    This time, I picked my own ring, did the research and actually did show my guy and say ‘Buy me that’, but only after he told me he was clueless and WANTED me to pick something out on my own. 

    Post # 36
    152 posts
    Blushing bee

    this is tough.  I can see both sides of the argument.

    On the one hand, it shouldn’t even matter what the ring looks like because its about the symbolism and the man you love picked it out for you.

    but honestly, if it was uncomfortable to wear like you said, then I think its ok to change it.

    I mean you have to wear it every day, so if it hurts then that won’t really work, right?

    Post # 37
    601 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I say have the diamond reset for like a anniversary 🙂 say 5 years but if you hate it i mean hate it then say something in a tackful way .. my hubby wanted to get me 1carat ering for are 5 year i tolh him its will look bad i have size 5 ring but my fingers are very short and the ring would go past my knuckle he would not give up on it so i said fine lets goto are jeweler and try them on he said ok i tryed on .90 carat round he said no way thats to huge what is that 3 carats she said no its not even a carat he looked at me n said ummm yup n i got .71 point Round Brilliant i know this isnt the same type scenario but if you hate your ering n evry time you look down you get upset n wanna tear up in a bad way tell your man your feelings tell him you wanna keep the diamond or gemstone but setting just isnt you and you love him dearly and your honored he choose the ring but you cant get past the feelings n then let him decide if its ok most men want there SO to be over the moon with there wedding rings then you can make it a point to do it together and FYI most of the time the sale person pushes them into a ring and they try to move inventory that has been around a while so there is my anwer some might not like it but its my feelings on the subject 

    Post # 38
    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 1993

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    Mayra.Mendoza:  Haha! For a minute there I was like WTF lol!  That is exactly how I feel about my ring.  The best part is that HE picked it.

    Post # 39
    6339 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

    I voted to change it only if he is fine with it. 

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