(Closed) Is it excessive?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@CocoClassic:  I would wear what I wanted….because it might not be seen by anyone but the two of you, but it’s still the ONLY time you get to wear it!  Go for it!

Post # 4
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Could you wear it again the following year when you celebrate with your friends and family? 


Post # 5
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If you feel like it’s too indulgent to buy a new dress for just the two of you, maybe look for a less expensive option:  a pre-owned dress, get a replica dress made, or buy one at a Brides Against Breast Cancer event (and with the latter option, you can also feel good about supporting a good cause). 

Another option might be to look for a style that you could dye or alter into a “normal” dress that you could re-wear later.

Are you guys having any photos taken on your wedding day? That would definitely be a good reason to buy a special dress even if it’s just the two of you. 

Post # 8
3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Our original plan was to get married with just the two of us.  Then we changed it and only invited my dad and his parents.  Whether we did it that way or had a hundred guests, I had the money, so there was no way I wasn’t wearing a fabulous dress to get married.  Go for it!

Post # 10
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Wear whatever you want! I’m wearing three outfits on my big day. Do other people think it’s excessive? YES. Do I care? HELL NO.

Post # 11
3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@QueenofCups:  +1 Glad there are other ‘excessive’ brides out there. At Chinese weddings, it’s expected that the bride will have at least three gown changes. There are very few Chinese traditions I embrace, but I’m happy to use this one as an excuse to buy several beautiful dresses! 

To the OP – wear what you want! Given you are having a photographer, I would think it’s perfectly acceptable to wear a gorgeous gown. Photographs are forever, so I think you would regret not going all out for your big day. And I would definitely wear the dress again for your reception down the track. 

Post # 12
60 posts
Worker bee

I would get it! It doesn’t matter if you are having an intimate ceremony or a huge allout wedding bash it’s your special day! 🙂

Post # 13
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@CocoClassic:  Definitaly get it if you can afford it – it is YOUR time to be selfish and do what YOU want x
You don’t want regrets afterwards. It doesn’t have to be beautiful to anyone else – it has to be the best it can be for you to love it and be happy in it and always know that you made the best choice for you.

And that is why I’m doing the same with our little wedding 🙂

Post # 14
2055 posts
Buzzing bee

@peonyinparis: @QueenofCups: +10000

Not excessive to me, either. In Nigerian culture, multiple dress changes are expected, and my sisters and I will have no less than 4-5 dress changes, thank you very much! Guests even have dress changes at other people’s weddings!

OP, whether you wear the dress again or not, as long as you are wearing what you want to your wedding (and who cares if there aren’t 200 people in attendance at the ceremony), it will be fine. And taking photos, buying preowned or wearing it to the reception, as other PPs have suggested, are options to help allay your concerns about excessiveness. I say go for it!

Post # 15
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t see how it would be excessive. Wear what you want for both events, and remember that the wedding is for you and your FH, no one else. Whether it’s just the two of you or a hundred people, it is still your wedding and you deserve to feel gorgeous in whatever you want to. If it’s in your budget to have two dresses and it would make you happy, then do it! 

Post # 16
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i think you should buy the dress no matter how many people will be there. its your wedding and even if its just the two of you, the dress can be all that you needed! and maybe you can wear it again during the party next year.

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