Post # 1
We are both Christian and we do not drink. We are having liquor at our wedding. Just because we don’t drink, we don’t want to impose our beliefs on anyone else.
Would it be improper or disrespectful to invite our pastor and his wife? Our concern is whether or not our pastor will feel uncomfortable at the reception because of the alcohol. I say, it would be worse not to invite him.
What do you all think?
Post # 3
We invited our pastor and his wife to the reception because we thought it was the polite thing to do. I don’t believe they drank alcohol, but they had a good time.
Post # 4
I would still invite him, and if you’re concerned about their uncomfortableness just let them know.
Our Pastor has gone to his school reunions and just drank water, even though others were drinking.
I would let that be up to him, and see what he says about it.
EDIT: If I was concerned about something like that with our pastor I would probably hand deliver the invite and talk with him then about it. I imagine that if he’s “your” pator and he’s doing the ceremony you and your FH should be able to chat it over with him. =)
Post # 5
I think its rude NOT to invite your pator…especially if he did the ceremony. I think people are put in situations where alcohol is present and it won’t be awkward. Good luck! We are inviting our pastor and his wife to our reception. We also have a good personal relationship with them too though.
Post # 6
I think it is polite and generous to invite the pastor and his wife
You may find that they don’t accept, because they have so many demands on their time. If they do come they may only stay a short time for the same reason.
Even though they may not drink themselves, ministers are not judgemental of other people’s choices- at least in a public way.
Post # 7
Most Christian pastors that I know wouldn’t be uncomfortable with alcohol at receptions. Unless people are getting super smashed and doing inappropriate things LOL.
Post # 8
I agree that it would be rude to NOT invite them. I’m sure this isn’t the first time they’ve been around alcohol. I’m not sure what denomination you are, but is alcohol forbidden or something?
Post # 9
We have a good relationship with the pastor and his wife. I think that he is cool and he wouldn’t feel uncomfortable, but Josh thinks that it would be inappropriate. Your answers really helped.
I don’t think anyone will get out of control.. but you never know.. lo
Post # 10
Invitations make people feel welcome. Not inviting makes people feel excluded. If you don’t invite him, it’s doubtful he’ll think “how considerate, they didn’t invite me because they know I don’t drink. That was nice of them.”
Post # 11
Is this the Pastor that will be marrying you? I think it’s customary that the Pastor be invited to the reception for sure. I’m sure your pastor has been in plenty of situations where there has been alcohol before. I don’t think it will be a problem. I’m Christian too, but of of the reformed brand so alcohol is never an issue, but ya, I would say for SURE invite him and his wife.
Post # 12
I think your pastor will be fine with alcohol at the wedding. Most of them realize that not everyone abstains from alcohol. I’m a Christian (also reformed) and drink all the time 🙂 The pastors and other Christian friends who don’t drink have no problem hanging out (or being near) people that do.
Post # 13
He will be touched that you invited him. Just because alcohol is available for other guests doesn’t mean the pastor and his wife will automatically be uncomfortable. They will enjoy celebrating with you, no matter what they’re drinking.
Post # 14
Our vicar enjoys a glass of wine or two with dinner… (Anglican/CofE)
We’re inviting our vicar and his wife because we want them there – we get on well and he’s going to be leading our service (although not actually marrying us, because OH’s dad is doing that bit). I voted ask him, but I think I really mean ask yourselves if you want to invite him. (I’m guessing that you do…)