(Closed) Is it improper to invite the pastor…..

posted 7 years ago in Christian
  • poll: Should we invite our pastor or not invite him to the reception
    Yes, invite him and his wife because it worse not to invite them : (30 votes)
    91 %
    No, do not invite them because it is improper. : (0 votes)
    Ask the pastor how he feels about it? : (3 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We invited our pastor and his wife to the reception because we thought it was the polite thing to do.  I don’t believe they drank alcohol, but they had a good time.

    Post # 4
    5654 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I would still invite him, and if you’re concerned about their uncomfortableness just let them know.

    Our Pastor has gone to his school reunions and just drank water, even though others were drinking.

    I would let that be up to him, and see what he says about it.

    EDIT: If I was concerned about something like that with our pastor I would probably hand deliver the invite and talk with him then about it. I imagine that if he’s “your” pator and he’s doing the ceremony you and your FH should be able to chat it over with him. =)

    Post # 5
    405 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think its rude NOT to invite your pator…especially if he did the ceremony.  I think people are put in situations where alcohol is present and it won’t be awkward.  Good luck!  We are inviting our pastor and his wife to our reception.  We also have a good personal relationship with them too though.


    Post # 6
    46590 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it is polite and generous to invite the pastor and his wife

    You may find that they don’t accept, because they have so many demands on their time. If they do come they may only stay a short time for the same reason.

    Even though they may not drink themselves, ministers are not judgemental of other people’s choices- at least in a public way.

    Post # 7
    3758 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Most Christian pastors that I know wouldn’t be uncomfortable with alcohol at receptions. Unless people are getting super smashed and doing inappropriate things LOL. 

    Post # 8
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I agree that it would be rude to NOT invite them. I’m sure this isn’t the first time they’ve been around alcohol. I’m not sure what denomination you are, but is alcohol forbidden or something?

    Post # 10
    1025 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Invitations make people feel welcome. Not inviting makes people feel excluded. If you don’t invite him, it’s doubtful he’ll think “how considerate, they didn’t invite me because they know I don’t drink. That was nice of them.” 

    Post # 11
    1935 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Is this the Pastor that will be marrying you? I think it’s customary that the Pastor be invited to the reception for sure. I’m sure your pastor has been in plenty of situations where there has been alcohol  before. I don’t think it will be a problem. I’m Christian too, but of of the reformed brand so alcohol is never an issue, but ya, I would say for SURE invite him and his wife.

    Post # 12
    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I think your pastor will be fine with alcohol at the wedding. Most of them realize that not everyone abstains from alcohol. I’m a Christian (also reformed) and drink all the time 🙂 The pastors and other Christian friends who don’t drink have no problem hanging out (or being near) people that do.

    Post # 13
    16196 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    He will be touched that you invited him. Just because alcohol is available for other guests doesn’t mean the pastor and his wife will automatically be uncomfortable. They will enjoy celebrating with you, no matter what they’re drinking.

    Post # 14
    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Our vicar enjoys a glass of wine or two with dinner… (Anglican/CofE)


    We’re inviting our vicar and his wife because we want them there – we get on well and he’s going to be leading our service (although not actually marrying us, because OH’s dad is doing that bit). I voted ask him, but I think I really mean ask yourselves if you want to invite him. (I’m guessing that you do…)

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