Post # 1
I’m throwing my Maid/Matron of Honor a bridal shower and she had expressed to me that, as far as her registry is concerned, she is most excited about her china. She also expressed concern because she has noticed that china is often overlooked by guests these days. So, I thought, maybe she would appreciate a shower where guests are asked to bring china. I have been to showers where suggestions are made to "fill the brides kitchen" with gifts off of their registry or the like but am wondering if this is in poor taste?
She is having a Destination Wedding in mexico and a hometown reception so I was planning on saying something along these lines for the invitation. (Please don’t judge too much I’m in the planning stages).
Join us for a shower honoring J. We will be celebrating with a little east meets south of the border. We will dine on mexican fare and shower J with gifts from the east (china of course!). J is registered at ….
What do you think tacky city or A OK?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I think it’s a cute idea! Maybe, though, you want to do something different than the wedding "theme." Does she have a favorite hobby you can frame it around? Or a meal? (I hosted a breakfast-themed afternoon bridal shower once for a bride who LURVES morning foods!)
Post # 4
I think its ok to have a themed shower, but just remember that EVERY SINGLE GIFT is going to be the same– probably a china place setting, and maybe the coffee creamer/sugar bowl or the serving plates. Usually, you open the gifts at the shower, and guests might get bored (and it might be a little awkward) if everyone watches her open plate after plate after plate. Usually, the themes are "kitchen" so she gets all sorts of different things that are more exciting to watch her open, or "lingerie" which can also be fun.
Also, you might want to take into consideration the cost of the china. Mine is pretty expensive (over $100 per place setting) and although some guests might spend that on wedding gifts, usually shower gifts are less expensive.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay
I think a themed shower is fine – A "Stock the Bar" theme to get the couples wine & champagne glasses, martini glasses, swizzles, wine, etc.
If you know that the bride really wants her china, then it should be fine to have that as the theme. It doesn’t offer guests any options, really, of what to get her…but again, if she wants it then do it.
Also factor in cost of her china settings!
Post # 6
Sorry, I should have mentioned that she is registered for individual pieces that average around $30 each. BeachBrideT I didn’t think of that, you make a good point with the boredom factor.
Post # 7
I guess I wrote my other response in the wrong thread. You mentioned the kitchen theme. That seems fine to me. There is a lot of variety in the kitchen realm. But having a china theme, doesn’t really seem like a theme to me. It’s like the bride is just saying "Buy me china, please." A "kitchen theme" doesn’t come across that way.
Gift giving (showers, weddings) is a way for guests to support the couple and give a heartfelt gift. Sure some guests don’t know, or want to put thought into a gift. So for that I think suggestions and registeries are wonderful. Word of mouth is wonderful here. But putting it in the invitation, even as a suggestion is going to make guests feel like they have to give that as a gift, even if they don’t want to. (Or they buck the system and feel like a bad guy.) The purpose of a shower isn’t for a person to say, "Yeah it’s my gift grab. Just get me this."
I know you’re trying to do what’s best for the bride based on what she said to you. But I think word of mouth is better for this situation. But I’m sure it will be nice however you do it.
Post # 8
You could make it a Dinner Party theme or something along those lines…"Let’s get XXXX ready to throw her first dinner party"? I think people would think china then. You would also end up getting cookbooks, silverware, etc. but probably a fair amount of china.
Post # 9
I just posted on your other thread, but I want to reiterate that I think a themed shower is fine, but specifically requesting that guests only shop from her china registry is a little specific. You could have a shower where the theme is expressly stated, then circulate that the bride is very excited about her china by word of mouth. I think some guests might see requesting that they bring china as a little limiting.
Good luck in planning, and I’m sure it will be great whatever you do!
Post # 10
KateMW I like that idea, it gives more wiggle room and hopefully it will still inspire some guests to go with china
Post # 11
I second KateMW’s idea. I think the china theme is just a little too specific. In my family, the men getting married get their own shower – a tool shower. You add tools to your registry so that all the men in the family know what kind of tools the guy wants, and then they throw the shower in someone’s garage, surrounded by tools and beer. Themed showers like this are supposed to be fun, and, like another poster said, watching someone open dish after dish might get a little boring.
Post # 12
I have been to a lingerie shower which was pretty fun. I think themes are OK but agree that china is on the pricier side and might be difficult for guests to swing. I think the dinner party theme is a fabulous idea!
Post # 13
I just wanted to add that I adore the Dinner Party theme suggested by KateMW! If I were invited to that sort of shower I would be excited to choose a gift and attend. I think she’ll get a lot of china this way too.