Post # 1
I’m curious to see what bees think about this.
I’m going to a wedding later this year, and since most of my closet is black, I thought I’d ask for advice here. My little goth heart always struggles with what to wear to weddings. I’ve worn a summery black dress to a wedding before, and a bold black-and-white print dress before and neither of those were issues. However my friend group is relatively laid back and this upcoming wedding is an older cousin’s who might be more sensitive about wedding etiquette.
I’ve since had a heated discussion with some older relatives who insist it’s rude to wear black to a wedding because “it’s not a funeral” (they also think it’s rude to wear red as “it’s overly sexual” and “that would take attention away from the bride” but that’s a topic for another time lol). So I’m curious to see if wearing black is a genuine etiquette thing or if it’s just an older generation thing.
I was planning on wearing this black embroidered skirt with a black top, but now I’m thinking I might wear a colorful top instead so that I don’t look like I’m going to a funeral 😂
So I have two questions:
1) Do you think it’s inappropriate to wear black to a wedding?
2) What should I wear with this skirt? (or should I wear it at all?)
Post # 2
apracticalbride : I personally avoid black, white and red. But I don’t really think it’s necessary to avoid black these days. Also, that skirt is patterned so if you paired it with a lighter/brighter jacket/wrap, clutch and shoes I don’t think it will look too dark.
I do think a lighter top would work better than black though as I just think it will lift it more; you could pick out one of the colours in the embroidery for eg.
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s rude to wear black to a wedding.
I do think you need to be careful about what fabric you wear with that skirt so it doesn’t look too casual though, maybe silk.
Post # 4
zzar45 : also this; definitely be careful with the fabric for the top ie I would avoid jersey/cotton. Silk would work, as would a very fine cashmere/similar.
Post # 5
@barbie86 @zzar45 I suppose it’s important to mention that I’m in the Southern hemisphere and it is an outdoor wedding so it will be the peak of summer and HOT, haha.
So jackets/wraps, and even silk/cashmere is off the table. But I will keep your comments in mind! Maybe something lighter like chiffon, or even a little bit lacey will make it feel formal without causing heat stroke.
Post # 6
Why would silk be off the table? Silk is a very cool fabric; if I’m travelling to hot countries I pretty much exclusively wear linen and silk. Though chiffon would work too.
So given your update I would personally not wear a black top as I think it will look quite heavy, esp for a summer wedding. So I would probably wear a blue or coral camisole-style top (even white would be fine IMO) and then heels and a bright clutch.
Post # 7
My bridesmaid dresses were black so in my mind you’re fine! I think people stress way too much but the attire of others at their weddings.
Post # 8
NYC bee here – Black is super common.
I think a silk top would look so pretty with that skirt!
Post # 9
The skirt looks like it has blue in it, maybe a nice powder blue top?
Post # 10
I honestly don’t see a problem with wearing a black dress.
Post # 11
I’ve worn black and accessorized with colour. I don’t think it’s rude, but it might be a “know your crowd” choice.
Post # 12
black dress is totally fine to wear. i have a black cocktail dress that is gorgeous and wore it to many weddings. no one gave me side eye or said a thing to me.
black is pretty common to wear, at least in my area.
Post # 13
I think both black and red are perfectly fine. The only colors a person should avoid imo is variations of white/cream and certain shades of pastels that will appear white in photos.
The majority of my closet is black so I would pair that skirt with a black top. Let them side eye all they want, they’re the ones being ott.
Post # 14
That is totally fine, I wouldn’t even worry.
Post # 15
In the Southern U.S., black and red are frowned upon for weddings, but I believe that’s an attitude only old people would have, and it depends on the dress or venue.
Nobody will think you’re “upstaging the bride” wearing black to a fancy evening wedding. A Spring garden party, possibly. And there’s a difference between a dress that is red, and a loud, look-at-me Red Dress. Avoid the va va voom, and I would think cherry and crimson colored dresses are fine.
Your black skirt btw, looks super cute! I’m loving the embroided tulle look. I’d pair it with a bodysuit that has some kind of frill around your neckline or on the shoulder. Or a smooth, satiny top with big bell sleeves.