Is it inappropriate to wear black to a wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

apracticalbride :  I personally avoid black, white and red. But I don’t really think it’s necessary to avoid black these days. Also, that skirt is patterned so if you paired it with a lighter/brighter jacket/wrap, clutch and shoes I don’t think it will look too dark.

I do think a lighter top would work better than black though as I just think it will lift it more; you could pick out one of the colours in the embroidery for eg.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I don’t think it’s rude to wear black to a wedding.

I do think you need to be careful about what fabric you wear with that skirt so it doesn’t look too casual though, maybe silk.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

zzar45 :  also this; definitely be careful with the fabric for the top ie I would avoid jersey/cotton. Silk would work, as would a very fine cashmere/similar.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

Why would silk be off the table? Silk is a very cool fabric; if I’m travelling to hot countries I pretty much exclusively wear linen and silk. Though chiffon would work too.

So given your update I would personally not wear a black top as I think it will look quite heavy, esp for a summer wedding. So I would probably wear a blue or coral camisole-style top (even white would be fine IMO) and then heels and a bright clutch.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

My bridesmaid dresses were black so in my mind you’re fine! I think people stress way too much but the attire of others at their weddings. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

NYC bee here – Black is super common. 

I think a silk top would look so pretty with that skirt!

Post # 9
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Helper bee

The skirt looks like it has blue in it, maybe a nice powder blue top?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I honestly don’t see a problem with wearing a black dress.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’ve worn black and accessorized with colour. I don’t think it’s rude, but it might be a “know your crowd” choice.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

black dress is totally fine to wear.  i have a black cocktail dress that is gorgeous and wore it to many weddings.  no one gave me side eye or said a thing to me.

black is pretty common to wear, at least in my area.

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I think both black and red are perfectly fine. The only colors a person should avoid imo is variations of white/cream and certain shades of pastels that will appear white in photos. 

The majority of my closet is black so I would pair that skirt with a black top. Let them side eye all they want, they’re the ones being ott. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

That is totally fine, I wouldn’t even worry.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

In the Southern U.S., black and red are frowned upon for weddings, but I believe that’s an attitude only old people would have, and it depends on the dress or venue.

Nobody will think you’re “upstaging the bride” wearing black to a fancy evening wedding. A Spring garden party, possibly. And there’s a difference between a dress that is red, and a loud, look-at-me Red Dress. Avoid the va va voom, and I would think cherry and crimson colored dresses are fine. 

Your black skirt btw, looks super cute! I’m loving the embroided tulle look. I’d pair it with a bodysuit that has some kind of frill around your neckline or on the shoulder. Or a smooth, satiny top with big bell sleeves. 

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