Post # 1
I’m going to a black tie optional wedding in New Jersey this summer. I have never been to a black tie event, and I’m not sure what to wear, particularly because I find the “optional” part a little confusing.
I am getting married myself next year and so I’m trying to cut back on my shopping to begin with. That coupled with the wedding gift and hotel room, I’m don’t want to spend a fortune on something to wear.
I have two formal-ISH events recently and worn short dresses. One is an LBD but definitely feels more wintery to me, the other I wore to an event where I saw many of the same people I will be seeing at this wedding. Plus I’m not sure if a short dress would even be appropriate.
So I’ve been looking and I found a long red dress online that I like for not too much more than $100. Other than being red, it’s not too flashy, but I’m not sure if red is a bad color for a wedding. I’m aware that it’s not really acceptable in Europe, but is it just as bad in the US?
Post # 3
@LilySarah: Personally, I don’t think red is a bad thing unless you are part of the family and going to be included in the group shots and might distract from the bride/groom in pictures. Other than that, if it’s a nice dress, I don’t see a problem with it!
Post # 4
i think red is more than acceptable go for it!
Post # 5
I’ve never seen a problem with red
Post # 6
Thanks, you guys. That definitely helps. Maybe I’ll consider it after all. I know I wouldn’t care if anyone wore red to MY wedding, but I certainly wouldn’t want to offend my friend (the bride) if she didn’t feel the same.
Post # 7
My main wedding colour was red, I don’t know if people wanted to match the decor or what but so many people wore red.
I didn’t care.
For those who have said ‘it distracts from the bride (in photos, ect)’ no it didn’t. I was the BRIDE dammit.
Post # 8
I’ve never heard that it’s inappropriate to wear red to a wedding. As long as you stay away from wearing white, I think you’re fine.
Post # 9
I worn (the same) red dress to at least two weddings. No problems. I’ll probably wear it to more…
I think the style is more important than the color (as long as you’re not proposing to wear white) in terms of appropriate attire at a wedding.
Post # 10
Well, how red is it? Weddings guests are meant to be like furniture — since you’re not the main attraction, you don’t wany anyone to think you’re TRYING to be the main attraction. So if it’s bright-bright-LOOKATMELOOKATME red, then it’s best not to wear it. But if it’s a darker more classy red, then it should be fine.
Generally, it’s not the bride you have to worry about pissing off — she’s busy and distracted. It’s the 200 other guests who might be making fun of you in the bathroom all night. Nobody wants to be “that guy” in the dress everyone has to talk about, haha.
Post # 11
I think it’s totally fine.
Post # 12
I think it is totally fine as bright as you want. I live in NJ and see plenty of red and bright colors. I’m not sure where the whole no bright colors, compete with the bride nonsense came from but I never hear it here.
Post # 13
totally acceptable. i always see people in red.
Post # 14
i never even knew some people thought red was an issue until i joined weddingbee.
i wore a red dress to a wedding a few years back and got tons of compliments
Post # 15
as long as it’s not a jessica rabbit dress, you’ll be fine, haha. i went to a wedding recently and there was a guest wearing a long red dress. i thought she looked cute 🙂
Post # 16
Red is fine, I wore a red satin formal gown to a black tie event and it was simple, but slightly curve hugging and I got a lot of compliments. Red is an awesome color because it is an all season color.