Post # 1
So I’ve seen a lot of posts lately about people not giving a reason as to why they can’t attend your wedding.
Now is it just me, or does this seem a little excessive? I have never been asked to give a reason before when I couldn’t attend. And I certainly don’t expect anyone to give me a reason when they can’t attend mine (except for maybe the groom).
Can anyone explain this to me? Why can’t you just check the box for not attending and let it be? What’s the point of holding grudges about something so petty?
Post # 3
@iammcdibble: I agree. I guess though that after months of planning, years of expectations etc. it hurts when people don’t want to come to your wedding, so some people want to know why. It’s sometimes hard to realize that not everyone cares about your wedding as much as you do.
We’re eloping so won’t have to deal w. this. I agree that ppl shouldn’t have to give a reason, but I can also see why brides are hurt when people don’t come and don’t give a good reason why not.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s that brides get upset when Great Uncle Chuck can’t make it — that’s fine. Saves money. They get upset, though, when their SIL who’s been riding their backside through the entire planning process suddenly isn’t coming, or when their best friend of 20 years who was soooo excited about it isn’t coming. Without a reason. I’m thankful that I didn’t have to deal with any of that, but I can certainly understand why brides would get upset that certain guest list VIPs aren’t making the trip and aren’t willing to give a reason why!
Post # 5
@iammcdibble: I think it just depends on who it is that can’t make it. If my immediate family or super close friends couldn’t make it, they damn well better have a good reason. There are just very few good reasons to skip your daughter’s/sons or sister’s/brother’s or your BFF’s wedding. If you just aren’t going because you’re lazy and don’t feel like it, then you really don’t care about the person.
Post # 6
I do understand the disappointment, especially close family members/friends. But there has to be some sort of realistic expectation that not everyone will be able to make it, right?
Or am I just nuts?
Post # 7
@iammcdibble: Guests are not and have never been required to explain why they don’t come. Guests are free to decline for any reason. Anything from I dont’ go out on Saturdays, it’s in a church and I don’t go to churches, I don’t want to support your marriage to THAT imbicile, or I just don’t feel like it.
You are not owed an explanation.
Post # 8
I agree unless it’s a major friend or family member I don’t think it’s the brides or grooms business.