(Closed) Is it just me?

posted 6 years ago in Weddingbee
  • poll: Have you ever wanted to ask why??
    Yes : (37 votes)
    56 %
    No : (4 votes)
    6 %
    I like that they stayed because I am a drama llama : (7 votes)
    11 %
    Who cares what other people do : (18 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 4
    Member
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    i do sometimes..but mainly i ask WHY THE HECK YA PUT YA BUSINESS out there!

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    Um – maybe a lot of sh*t went on that you don’t know about, and things got better?  Maybe the entire situation was exaggerated in the first place, and the OP just wanted validation for getting a divorce?  IDK why, but I would assume that the situation had improved dramatically.

    Post # 6
    Member
    9734 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    The way I look at it is sometimes people come here to vent and get their thoughts out.  If something is going on in their relationship that they’re having trouble coping with that makes sense. 

    It’s one thing to know you should leave a destructive relationship and it’s another thing to build up the courage to do so.  Love isn’t a faucet that can be turned on and off so easily. 

    When I was previously in a bad relationship lots of my friends told me to leave.  I did, eventually, but it took time for me to see reality clearly, because I was blinded by love, emotions, wishful thinking and simply being too hurt to have the strength to make the decision.  Finally I got up the guts to leave and it was the best thing I ever did.  But, I was ready.

    When they’re ready, they’ll leave.  In the meantime we can advise, comfort, support and care as best we can from here.  😉  I’m still grateful for my online buddies at the time I needed them (many, many years ago on another site) who helped me through my darkest hours.  I guess being here now is a small way I can pay it forward.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @Sunfire:  you are exactly right~ there are several steps to go thru before you can actually leave, trust me ive been there

    my comment was meant for the ones that get angry when someone doesnt see their point of veiw- if you dont want to hear others opinions- dont put the business out there.. others can not see all the ins/outs/good/bads and you may be judged

    Post # 8
    Member
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Sunfire:  This! It definitely has to be right for the person to leave, and that takes time. Even if they recognise a bad relationship and realize they need to leave, the realization and actual act aren’t one and the same. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I sometimes ask myself why, since it’s so obvious to us… but we are not in that situation, so no matter what answers and advice we give, it’s the poster who must make all the decisions herself or himself and we just add that ooomph which may be  needed when the poster is ready, trust me, they will remember our advice when the time comes!!! It’s a MAJOR decision on their life, and just because 90% says something, it doesn’t mean they must take action immediately.

    Post # 10
    Member
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Yup. One in particular I can’t wrap my mind around, but apparently she’s looking for an engagement ring now so good luck to her.

    Post # 11
    Member
    6742 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I do, sometimes.  But then I remember that it’s kind of human nature to talk about negative things with other people and seek advice, but not to sit around and brag about how awesome things are. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    2607 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Totally… I just assume as pp’s have said that things either got a lot better, or she decided to settle.  I often wonder where the “things are getting better!” threads are though, since I rarely see one of those.

    Post # 13
    Member
    2863 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    All the damn time. That is why you don’t post your personal business online because the community will never forget it and likely it will color their view of you. 

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