Post # 1
does anyone else feel frustrated about waiting sometimes and get the urge to propose instead? i mean…why should we wait for them to decide when u get engaged? i feel sometimes if i wait for my man to make the decision it ll be too late for me to have kids etc….so why cant i take the bull by the horns??? but of course then i think that men dont think the same way as us girls and they dont seem to be able to plan ahead or cope with pressure,..and they need longer to think about things and decide…
my man says he wants to marry me and have kids blah blah blah but when i ask so why doesnt he want to get engaged to me? he just laughs and says he never said that…and ignored the question!!! all i want is some sort of idea as to when… 🙁
Post # 3
I think you should let him know how serious this it. Bc who has yrs to waste on someone who isnt on the same page? Let him know what your future plans are and encourage him to look at rings together. That way he will know your not
just bluffing. I had the same problem but mine was more waiting on my Fiance to finish paying off my ring. It took him a yr and 2 months to pay off bc his doesnt like to charge things on credit cards. So all my friends were getting engaged befire me and I was going crazy! But I felt a little better bc at least I knew he was paying on my ring. In your situation , you have to be really honest with him and tell him its time to get a on the same page ( im not saying get a ring tommorw) but at oesst be working towards it… or if he still not interested move on bc you cannot wait forever.
Post # 4
Oh, my SO knows me well enough to know that I would propose without any compunctions; one of the first times he brought up marriage, about six or seven months into our relationship, he said, “I wouldn’t be comfortable with you proposing. I want to be the one to do it.” (This was before I had even decided I was ready to marry him!) Sometimes of late I fantasize about how I would go about popping the question to him if he hadn’t said that, though!
Post # 5
You can always ask him his thoughts on women proposing.
Plenty of couples do do that! But just in case he really wants it to be him, he’ll let you know if you ask him in a more general way.